Gay Marriage
I haven't ever written a personal entry on this journal before, but over the past few weeks, as a number of little thoughts have entered my head, I've just been getting the urge to write them down. And seeing as I have an LJ, and this is what it's for, I thought, meh, why not?
So. Gay marriage. Needless to say, I support it fully. Guys and girls can turn my head, and I've always been a bit of a closet romantic, so the thought of getting married to a person that I love - be it a guy or a girl - makes me feel all warm and tingly inside.
Those gay people who aren't really bothered about gay marriage - that is, if it was legal, those gay couples who wouldn't get married - fine, great, that's okay with me, obviously. To each his own, I can totally understand why some couples - gay or straight - aren't really that fussed about marriage/don't want it/don't see the need for them to marry their partner. That's their decision about their personal lives with their own partner.
What does get me just a tiny bit pissed off though, is when some gay people who have these views say things that - to my mind - damage the bid for gay marriage, by saying that there is no need for marriage in the gay community, etc etc. If they personally don't want it, fine, but don't try to limit those gay people who do want marriage just because you don't.
If gay marriage is made legal, those people who don't want to marry their partners don't have to. But it doesn't really work the other way around, because if gay marriage is not made legal, then okay, those who didn't want it won't be too bothered, but those gay people who do want it aren't given the opportunity to have it.
Basically, if it's made legal, it will only really directly effect those gay people who want to get married. It won't have any effect on those who don't want it.
And a big part of the fight for gay marriage is equality. Some straight couples are perfectly happy to cohabit and don't want to get married. But the opportunity for marriage is there for those straight people who want it.
All we want is to say the same thing for gay people. We just want those gay couples who want to get married to be able to. So that the gay and straight people are on equal grounds in terms of the opportunity to be married.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am not trying to insult gay people who don't want marriage. As I say, if they personally don't want it, that's absolutely fine. Nor am I trying to say that all gay people with these views are trying to limit the rights of other gay people. I know that the majority of gay people who don't want to be married don't say anything against marriage, and even support the idea.
It's just that over the months, I have seen this issue crop up in the media a few times, and it just bothered me a little.
Also, it's just my interpretation of what these people say. It's just the feeling that their statements evoked. I'm not saying that they are damaging the bid for gay marriage. It just felt a little bit like that when I saw their statements.
Meh. Just wanted that off my chest.
So. Gay marriage. Needless to say, I support it fully. Guys and girls can turn my head, and I've always been a bit of a closet romantic, so the thought of getting married to a person that I love - be it a guy or a girl - makes me feel all warm and tingly inside.
Those gay people who aren't really bothered about gay marriage - that is, if it was legal, those gay couples who wouldn't get married - fine, great, that's okay with me, obviously. To each his own, I can totally understand why some couples - gay or straight - aren't really that fussed about marriage/don't want it/don't see the need for them to marry their partner. That's their decision about their personal lives with their own partner.
What does get me just a tiny bit pissed off though, is when some gay people who have these views say things that - to my mind - damage the bid for gay marriage, by saying that there is no need for marriage in the gay community, etc etc. If they personally don't want it, fine, but don't try to limit those gay people who do want marriage just because you don't.
If gay marriage is made legal, those people who don't want to marry their partners don't have to. But it doesn't really work the other way around, because if gay marriage is not made legal, then okay, those who didn't want it won't be too bothered, but those gay people who do want it aren't given the opportunity to have it.
Basically, if it's made legal, it will only really directly effect those gay people who want to get married. It won't have any effect on those who don't want it.
And a big part of the fight for gay marriage is equality. Some straight couples are perfectly happy to cohabit and don't want to get married. But the opportunity for marriage is there for those straight people who want it.
All we want is to say the same thing for gay people. We just want those gay couples who want to get married to be able to. So that the gay and straight people are on equal grounds in terms of the opportunity to be married.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am not trying to insult gay people who don't want marriage. As I say, if they personally don't want it, that's absolutely fine. Nor am I trying to say that all gay people with these views are trying to limit the rights of other gay people. I know that the majority of gay people who don't want to be married don't say anything against marriage, and even support the idea.
It's just that over the months, I have seen this issue crop up in the media a few times, and it just bothered me a little.
Also, it's just my interpretation of what these people say. It's just the feeling that their statements evoked. I'm not saying that they are damaging the bid for gay marriage. It just felt a little bit like that when I saw their statements.
Meh. Just wanted that off my chest.