Positivity vs Negativity (my novel pls read)
I go through stages in my life all the time.
Negative.
Positive.
Negative.
Positive.
Alot of the time, the negative outweighs the positive.
Unfortunately, its a sad fact of life.
Negativity breeds more negativity.
And sadly you end up finding yourself dug into the biggest whole the earth has seen, with no aparent mode of escape.
The only way you can escape is to hold on tighter and force positivity into your life.
Its probably one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, but once you start affirming your life with positive people, positive things, you find positivity comes to you so much easier.
After a day like yesterday, I feel alot more positive about my life and about what I can do to make things better for me and for the people around me.
I have always been able to speak up and say to someone they have upset me.
But I seem to do it in a negative way, I realised today.
I am too quick to anger.
Too quick to sarcasm.
Too quick to assumptions.
And this leads to a negative vibe being pulled into the conversation and then animosity rears its ugly head causing the situation to be drawn out into a full blown argument.
Im sorry for the way I am.
I didnt grow up within a very positive household and I tend to draw in negativity all the time, because, honestly, its alot easier to deal with.
Its alot easier to deal with things going wrong, than accepting things going right.
Things going right in my life is foreign to me and I feel very uncomfortable and sit around waiting for something bad to happen.
Alot of the time, I feel as though I will it to happen.
In my beliefs I strongly believe the negative portions are put there by the devil and you are given the choice to go with the negativity or to pull yourself out and find the positive light (god) to help you through.
Lately Ive had alot of negative things come in and try to make me a lesser person.
My faith has grown and I believe the biggest test I face each day is to keep that faith strong.
Its really hard and anyone who struggles with their faith will be able to understand me.
Its not that you dont believe in god or you have less of a belief of him, its the fact that the negativity pulls you down so far, you just cant be bothered doing anything but wallow in self pity, its easier than being strong and beating it.
I looked deep inside myself yesterday and realised that I was put here for a purpose.
To help those in need.
And I think I will continue to help anyone in need because, I feel I have a knack for it, to listen, to give advice, to help get the person on the right track again once theyve fallen off for whatever reason.
I believe i helped the most important person in my life yesterday more than I ever thought possible.
I spoke nothing but possitivity.
I didnt even know half the time where it was coming from.
Where had the information been stored previously to allow me to delve into it and let it flow from my mouth.
I had the most positive advice for her that I sat back later on thinking, why have i never thought to incorporate this into my own life?
It was as if God was speaking through me for that short time and I felt so uplifted and happy, knowing what I said caused her tears to stop flowing and caused her to push out that negative feeling and replace it with a positive and proud feeling.
Insecurites drag even the best of us down at times and you would be surprised what a small amount of insecurity can do to a persons confidence.
Especially when the insecurity stems from a family members harsh words.
We rely so much on our families to love us unconditionally, but when your family life isnt a perfect fairy tale, so much emotional baggage accumulates and it makes even the strongest person, weak and without protection from that evil, negativity.
Its the hardest thing in the world to have a family member, someone you love and trust put you down and make you feel as though you are lower than them and you are not as important as them.
Its even harder sticking up for yourself in this sort of situation.
Ive come to the conclusion, you dont need to be rude, nasty or sarcastic in dealing with these people.
You have to stand up tall, proud and assertively say, "I do not appreciate the way you are speaking to me" and make that person realise that they have hurt your feelings but in a way that makes them really think.
Too many arguments involve sarcastic remarks and to be honest, noone listens to them in the heat of the argument..they are overlooked and ignored.
You need to be assertive and strong in getting your point across.
Smile and walk away when you've said your peace.
Crying or chucking a tantrum is only going to allow that person to feed you with more negativity and the cycle will continue over and over again until you are forced back into that hole in the ground, gasping for air.
I suggested to make a positive book to my best friend today.
A book full of positive things she has always wanted, things that make her happy.
Cut outs from catalouges, printouts of material items, things you'll probably never have the money to get, but things that make you smile when you look at them.
This isnt a greed thing, this is a positive thing.
When things get you down, you can open the pages and go..."one day Ill have these things", to motivate you into a positive light.
It might be a picture of a thin girl, if you need or want to lose weight.
It might be a dress that you've always wanted, a car you know you'll never be able to afford, a house on the beach, anything.
Put anything and everything in it that bring a smile to your face when you look at them.
This is called your "WISH" book.
And at the end of the wish book scrapbook, put photos of what you do actually have.
Your family, your home, your children, your car, your favourite cd, everything you are proud of owning.
This is your "PROUD" page.
This is the page you turn to after you look through your wish book and you can smile going LOOK AT WHAT I HAVE, I AM SO BLESSED.
Im going to sit down this weekend and do the same thing because really, even if you dont own alot of material objects, you should feel blessed to have certain people in your life, they are there for a reason.
Dont take people for granted.
This is one of the things that angers me more than anything every single day.
The human race is one that is very selfish and self gratifying.
Everything is done for the individual and God forbid if someone is reaching out their hand to you asking for help, unless it helps you get further in life, why bother right?
WRONG.
People in this day and age are so consumed with their own lives that they wont even stop for a dying man on a highway.
I watched this report on Today Tonight I think it was and it sickened me.
A man lay dying on the side of the highway for hours until one man decided to stop.
He ultimately saved the other mans life, which was hanging by a thread, out of pure kindness from his heart.
Most people just drove on by.
Sounds like a normal everyday life to me.
Noone wants to do anything that might get their hands dirty, something that might make them late for work, out of pocket, emotionally drained etc etc.
Where has compassion gone?
I cannot fathom not helping someone in need.
I would give my right arm to help someone I love, yet too many people today put it in the 'too hard' basket and walk away.
Hey, its easier that way right?
WRONG.
Selfishness is breeding and Im scared one day the world will be nothing but a mass of negative, evil selfishness.
This scares me more than anything because of my son.
Because he will have to deal with the growing selfishness as he himself grows.
I still have major emotional issues when someone I know is selfish to me and Im 29 years old.
I cant even begin to imagine how many times his little heart will break in his lifetime and that thought brings tears to my eyes.
I never wanted my child to grow up in a world like this.
And its only getting worse.
Wars.
Famine.
Animal cruelty.
Murder.
Drugs.
These things are consuming our world and each thing, in my opinion is fuelled by selfishness.
Wars are started because one country is trying to control another, one country wants something the other country has.. one country is telling another country what they can and cant do.
Selfishness.
I could go on about each topic, but I think my point has been made.
It really doesnt take alot to be unselfish.
It really doesnt take alot to actually care about the people around you.
And that is a start to making the world a better place.
If each person in the world actually cared about the ppl around them, this world would begin to be a better, less selfish place.
If someone you know is in need of help, HELP THEM.
Even if you dont know what to do to help... take the initiative and hold out your hand to stop them from drowning any further.
Sometimes a shoulder is a cure for alot of problems.
Listening.
Something, Im sad to say, alot of people I know, know nothing about.
Listening isnt hard to do.
Listening is one of the basic skills we are taught as a small baby, so what has happened through the years to make this skill be lost in transit?
Selfishness.
"Oh I cant be bothered listening, all she ever does is whinge and whine"..... sound familiar?
Im even guilty of feeling this once in awhile and its not a nice way to live.
Alot of the time when someone is having problems, their life feeds off negativity and they have alot come down on them at once.
This causes them to seem like a 'whinger', always complaining, always depressed, always crying.
This is a chance for you reading this to reach out to those ppl and say hey, would you like me to come sit with you and LISTEN to your problems.
Once you have listened, suggest some solutions, suggest further help if its something major and out of your hands. SUGGEST AND LISTEN.
Its really not hard people.
Why do so many ppl put so much emphasis on selfishness?
Which brings me to another thing that baffles me every single day.
Manners.
We are taught manners at a very young age.
A baby is taught to say "TAH" meaning please I guess, when they are learning to speak.
They say tah and they get what they are asking for.
They dont say tah and you keep trying to teach them to say it.
As children grow, its crucial that they continue to learn manners.
Thankyou.
Please.
Excuse me.
etc etc.
Yet, I see so many young adults these days with not one ounce of politeness.
I went to a prep information night on Wednesday night and one of the teachers stated.
"we teach manners, we dont call them rules or regulations, we call them manners".
Our school systems teach manners, and our home life should teach manners, yet.. so many people are lacking in this incredibly important skill.
Its definately not hard to say Please or Thankyou or Excuse me.
It angers me even more to see someone in a shop being rude to a sales clerk.
You wouldnt be able to shop in that store if it wasnt for sales clerks, yet people are grumpy and take out their day on the sales people.
Wake up to yourself people.
SMILING IS CONTAGIOUS, try it sometime.
Smile at people, be polite and you will be very surprised how nice and polite people will be with you.
Alot of the times you will go into a shop and the sales clerk isnt on their best behaviour and you walk away feeling ripped of and angry.
Smile at them, say HAVE A NICE DAY as you walk away.
This always makes people step back and think, and it might very well push the person out of their mood.
Try it someday, instead of being rude back to someone, hold your head high and proud and say "you have a lovely day now wont you" and walk away knowing you might have very well helped a stranger with their sad mood.
Kindness and manners really arent a hard thing to practice.
Im sick of the negativity in this world.
Im sick of the selfishness.
Im sick of the sorrow (Hey, I feel this some days too)
Tears shouldnt be shed unless its necessary, people shouldnt be mean and nasty for no reason... people shouldnt break hearts for no real reason other than their own selfish greed.
Its completely wrong and It shouldnt happen.
People need to wake up to themselves.
Take a step back today, if you've read all of this, thankyou, but take a step back and think about your own life and how you can better it.
Think about the people around you and how you can help them, because in reality, if you help them, whats stopping them helping you?
Stop thinking selfish thoughts, it will consume your life and draw in so much negativity and you wont be able to float.
If you are a christian, pray for others, so that they too can bring positivity into their lives with thanks to God.
I give alot of thanks to God for positive thoughts when I have them.
I know they arent just floating around in my head waiting for the best time to surface, they are put there for a reason, to help me out of the rut I put MYSELF into, sometimes on a daily basis.
Try to be happy with yourself and proud of yourself for the person you are.
Even if you dont think you've acheived much, you have to remember you have acheived the biggest and hardest trial you could ever acheive.
LIFE...... its hard at times but its a gift.
Cherish it.
Dont wallow in it.
And dont live your life in a pool of negativity, drag yourself out once in awhile and sunbake instead of drowning.
Thankyou for reading :)
xoxoxox Chrissy xoxoxoxox
Negative.
Positive.
Negative.
Positive.
Alot of the time, the negative outweighs the positive.
Unfortunately, its a sad fact of life.
Negativity breeds more negativity.
And sadly you end up finding yourself dug into the biggest whole the earth has seen, with no aparent mode of escape.
The only way you can escape is to hold on tighter and force positivity into your life.
Its probably one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, but once you start affirming your life with positive people, positive things, you find positivity comes to you so much easier.
After a day like yesterday, I feel alot more positive about my life and about what I can do to make things better for me and for the people around me.
I have always been able to speak up and say to someone they have upset me.
But I seem to do it in a negative way, I realised today.
I am too quick to anger.
Too quick to sarcasm.
Too quick to assumptions.
And this leads to a negative vibe being pulled into the conversation and then animosity rears its ugly head causing the situation to be drawn out into a full blown argument.
Im sorry for the way I am.
I didnt grow up within a very positive household and I tend to draw in negativity all the time, because, honestly, its alot easier to deal with.
Its alot easier to deal with things going wrong, than accepting things going right.
Things going right in my life is foreign to me and I feel very uncomfortable and sit around waiting for something bad to happen.
Alot of the time, I feel as though I will it to happen.
In my beliefs I strongly believe the negative portions are put there by the devil and you are given the choice to go with the negativity or to pull yourself out and find the positive light (god) to help you through.
Lately Ive had alot of negative things come in and try to make me a lesser person.
My faith has grown and I believe the biggest test I face each day is to keep that faith strong.
Its really hard and anyone who struggles with their faith will be able to understand me.
Its not that you dont believe in god or you have less of a belief of him, its the fact that the negativity pulls you down so far, you just cant be bothered doing anything but wallow in self pity, its easier than being strong and beating it.
I looked deep inside myself yesterday and realised that I was put here for a purpose.
To help those in need.
And I think I will continue to help anyone in need because, I feel I have a knack for it, to listen, to give advice, to help get the person on the right track again once theyve fallen off for whatever reason.
I believe i helped the most important person in my life yesterday more than I ever thought possible.
I spoke nothing but possitivity.
I didnt even know half the time where it was coming from.
Where had the information been stored previously to allow me to delve into it and let it flow from my mouth.
I had the most positive advice for her that I sat back later on thinking, why have i never thought to incorporate this into my own life?
It was as if God was speaking through me for that short time and I felt so uplifted and happy, knowing what I said caused her tears to stop flowing and caused her to push out that negative feeling and replace it with a positive and proud feeling.
Insecurites drag even the best of us down at times and you would be surprised what a small amount of insecurity can do to a persons confidence.
Especially when the insecurity stems from a family members harsh words.
We rely so much on our families to love us unconditionally, but when your family life isnt a perfect fairy tale, so much emotional baggage accumulates and it makes even the strongest person, weak and without protection from that evil, negativity.
Its the hardest thing in the world to have a family member, someone you love and trust put you down and make you feel as though you are lower than them and you are not as important as them.
Its even harder sticking up for yourself in this sort of situation.
Ive come to the conclusion, you dont need to be rude, nasty or sarcastic in dealing with these people.
You have to stand up tall, proud and assertively say, "I do not appreciate the way you are speaking to me" and make that person realise that they have hurt your feelings but in a way that makes them really think.
Too many arguments involve sarcastic remarks and to be honest, noone listens to them in the heat of the argument..they are overlooked and ignored.
You need to be assertive and strong in getting your point across.
Smile and walk away when you've said your peace.
Crying or chucking a tantrum is only going to allow that person to feed you with more negativity and the cycle will continue over and over again until you are forced back into that hole in the ground, gasping for air.
I suggested to make a positive book to my best friend today.
A book full of positive things she has always wanted, things that make her happy.
Cut outs from catalouges, printouts of material items, things you'll probably never have the money to get, but things that make you smile when you look at them.
This isnt a greed thing, this is a positive thing.
When things get you down, you can open the pages and go..."one day Ill have these things", to motivate you into a positive light.
It might be a picture of a thin girl, if you need or want to lose weight.
It might be a dress that you've always wanted, a car you know you'll never be able to afford, a house on the beach, anything.
Put anything and everything in it that bring a smile to your face when you look at them.
This is called your "WISH" book.
And at the end of the wish book scrapbook, put photos of what you do actually have.
Your family, your home, your children, your car, your favourite cd, everything you are proud of owning.
This is your "PROUD" page.
This is the page you turn to after you look through your wish book and you can smile going LOOK AT WHAT I HAVE, I AM SO BLESSED.
Im going to sit down this weekend and do the same thing because really, even if you dont own alot of material objects, you should feel blessed to have certain people in your life, they are there for a reason.
Dont take people for granted.
This is one of the things that angers me more than anything every single day.
The human race is one that is very selfish and self gratifying.
Everything is done for the individual and God forbid if someone is reaching out their hand to you asking for help, unless it helps you get further in life, why bother right?
WRONG.
People in this day and age are so consumed with their own lives that they wont even stop for a dying man on a highway.
I watched this report on Today Tonight I think it was and it sickened me.
A man lay dying on the side of the highway for hours until one man decided to stop.
He ultimately saved the other mans life, which was hanging by a thread, out of pure kindness from his heart.
Most people just drove on by.
Sounds like a normal everyday life to me.
Noone wants to do anything that might get their hands dirty, something that might make them late for work, out of pocket, emotionally drained etc etc.
Where has compassion gone?
I cannot fathom not helping someone in need.
I would give my right arm to help someone I love, yet too many people today put it in the 'too hard' basket and walk away.
Hey, its easier that way right?
WRONG.
Selfishness is breeding and Im scared one day the world will be nothing but a mass of negative, evil selfishness.
This scares me more than anything because of my son.
Because he will have to deal with the growing selfishness as he himself grows.
I still have major emotional issues when someone I know is selfish to me and Im 29 years old.
I cant even begin to imagine how many times his little heart will break in his lifetime and that thought brings tears to my eyes.
I never wanted my child to grow up in a world like this.
And its only getting worse.
Wars.
Famine.
Animal cruelty.
Murder.
Drugs.
These things are consuming our world and each thing, in my opinion is fuelled by selfishness.
Wars are started because one country is trying to control another, one country wants something the other country has.. one country is telling another country what they can and cant do.
Selfishness.
I could go on about each topic, but I think my point has been made.
It really doesnt take alot to be unselfish.
It really doesnt take alot to actually care about the people around you.
And that is a start to making the world a better place.
If each person in the world actually cared about the ppl around them, this world would begin to be a better, less selfish place.
If someone you know is in need of help, HELP THEM.
Even if you dont know what to do to help... take the initiative and hold out your hand to stop them from drowning any further.
Sometimes a shoulder is a cure for alot of problems.
Listening.
Something, Im sad to say, alot of people I know, know nothing about.
Listening isnt hard to do.
Listening is one of the basic skills we are taught as a small baby, so what has happened through the years to make this skill be lost in transit?
Selfishness.
"Oh I cant be bothered listening, all she ever does is whinge and whine"..... sound familiar?
Im even guilty of feeling this once in awhile and its not a nice way to live.
Alot of the time when someone is having problems, their life feeds off negativity and they have alot come down on them at once.
This causes them to seem like a 'whinger', always complaining, always depressed, always crying.
This is a chance for you reading this to reach out to those ppl and say hey, would you like me to come sit with you and LISTEN to your problems.
Once you have listened, suggest some solutions, suggest further help if its something major and out of your hands. SUGGEST AND LISTEN.
Its really not hard people.
Why do so many ppl put so much emphasis on selfishness?
Which brings me to another thing that baffles me every single day.
Manners.
We are taught manners at a very young age.
A baby is taught to say "TAH" meaning please I guess, when they are learning to speak.
They say tah and they get what they are asking for.
They dont say tah and you keep trying to teach them to say it.
As children grow, its crucial that they continue to learn manners.
Thankyou.
Please.
Excuse me.
etc etc.
Yet, I see so many young adults these days with not one ounce of politeness.
I went to a prep information night on Wednesday night and one of the teachers stated.
"we teach manners, we dont call them rules or regulations, we call them manners".
Our school systems teach manners, and our home life should teach manners, yet.. so many people are lacking in this incredibly important skill.
Its definately not hard to say Please or Thankyou or Excuse me.
It angers me even more to see someone in a shop being rude to a sales clerk.
You wouldnt be able to shop in that store if it wasnt for sales clerks, yet people are grumpy and take out their day on the sales people.
Wake up to yourself people.
SMILING IS CONTAGIOUS, try it sometime.
Smile at people, be polite and you will be very surprised how nice and polite people will be with you.
Alot of the times you will go into a shop and the sales clerk isnt on their best behaviour and you walk away feeling ripped of and angry.
Smile at them, say HAVE A NICE DAY as you walk away.
This always makes people step back and think, and it might very well push the person out of their mood.
Try it someday, instead of being rude back to someone, hold your head high and proud and say "you have a lovely day now wont you" and walk away knowing you might have very well helped a stranger with their sad mood.
Kindness and manners really arent a hard thing to practice.
Im sick of the negativity in this world.
Im sick of the selfishness.
Im sick of the sorrow (Hey, I feel this some days too)
Tears shouldnt be shed unless its necessary, people shouldnt be mean and nasty for no reason... people shouldnt break hearts for no real reason other than their own selfish greed.
Its completely wrong and It shouldnt happen.
People need to wake up to themselves.
Take a step back today, if you've read all of this, thankyou, but take a step back and think about your own life and how you can better it.
Think about the people around you and how you can help them, because in reality, if you help them, whats stopping them helping you?
Stop thinking selfish thoughts, it will consume your life and draw in so much negativity and you wont be able to float.
If you are a christian, pray for others, so that they too can bring positivity into their lives with thanks to God.
I give alot of thanks to God for positive thoughts when I have them.
I know they arent just floating around in my head waiting for the best time to surface, they are put there for a reason, to help me out of the rut I put MYSELF into, sometimes on a daily basis.
Try to be happy with yourself and proud of yourself for the person you are.
Even if you dont think you've acheived much, you have to remember you have acheived the biggest and hardest trial you could ever acheive.
LIFE...... its hard at times but its a gift.
Cherish it.
Dont wallow in it.
And dont live your life in a pool of negativity, drag yourself out once in awhile and sunbake instead of drowning.
Thankyou for reading :)
xoxoxox Chrissy xoxoxoxox