The best thing you can do for your life is surround yourself with good people
Wise words from boffo:
If you choose friends and/or lovers who are constantly spewing drama, pain, negativity, and sadness, then your life will be filled with drama, pain, negativity, and sadness. But if you avoid those people and instead choose friends/lovers who generate joy, fun, and affection, your life will be filled with joy, fun, and affection. That’s way better.
It’s also a good idea to think about which category *you* fall into. If you’re constantly spewing drama, pain, negativity, and sadness, not only will you be compounding the drama, pain, negativity, and sadness in your life yourself, but you’ll also miss out on some wonderful friendships because the best people won’t be willing to hang out with someone like you.
I would add indifference to the list of things to avoid. I don’t think I have any friends who consistently bring negative emotion into my life. But in the past, I’ve sometimes pursued relationships too long, when it was clear that the person I liked didn’t feel the same way about me. The person did nothing bad, they just didn’t reciprocate. And sometimes I’ve neglected those who have been enthusiastic cheerleaders for me. It would be better to redirect my energies to nurturing my already healthy friendships, and to let the sickly ones quietly fade away.
To those to whom I have been a source of pain or negativity, my apologies. And to those I’ve neglected, I’ll try to be a better friend.
And to those who have been good friends to me: my thanks.
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