Part 2: "The Quest for Romanticism in a Modern World"
Yesterday, I left on a hopeful note about the male species and what they are capable of doing for the women they care about. Soon after, I engaged in an interesting conversation with my friend, Eric phleck about the most romantic thing he's ever done for a girl and when he couldn't remember exactly, he said that he hoped HE was interesting enough to the girl that romanticism was not needed. I told him I'd give him an F in this subject matter.
I actually find it quite funny now. I mean--how many men must believe this? Imagine if romanticism as we know it ceased to exist. This is what men fail to understand. They believe--mostly because they are, unfortunately, not only driven by testosterone, but EGO as well--that THEY themselves, are enough to make us go bonkers over them. Men may say that they like us for who we are and that's all they need, but this is, in fact, a lie. Our existence is not enough, which is why we work hard to prove that in many ways. One of the biggest differences between men and women is that men, after some time, can automatically shut down all thought processes and become vegetated into things such as video games and occasional porn sessions. Suddenly, the women in their lives become non-existent. Women, on the other hand, are gentle creatures, charged with highly emotional brains. Even when we attempt to distract ourselves from the men in our lives, something reminds us of them. It's true. We can be walking around the mall and suddenly see a shirt on display and it happens. "Aww! Billy has a shirt like that!" Or we're driving down the beach and notice the car next to ours. "Aww...Billy's always wanted that car!" It's like a brain disease women have. However, this disease is also what draws men to feel intrigued by our existence. They thrive on the thoughtfulness of women. We nurture the ones we care about even when they're not around and we're constantly on a mission to better the relationship, even if there's a chance it might fail. We go to great lengths, often making ourselves uncomfortable in sexy lingerie or by sitting through a sport we don't care for. That's what WE do. If our existence WAS enough, we wouldn't take the time to curl our hair or apply that stupid bronzer on our cheeks to make our skin glow. But we do those things because we're hoping you'll take notice. Forget the fancy diamonds or ridiculously expensive roses. All we want is to know that you're thinking about us, the way we are often thinking about you. So guys, listen up. Romanticism does not depend on the credit limit on your Visa. It depends on how well you listen to the one you love.
I actually find it quite funny now. I mean--how many men must believe this? Imagine if romanticism as we know it ceased to exist. This is what men fail to understand. They believe--mostly because they are, unfortunately, not only driven by testosterone, but EGO as well--that THEY themselves, are enough to make us go bonkers over them. Men may say that they like us for who we are and that's all they need, but this is, in fact, a lie. Our existence is not enough, which is why we work hard to prove that in many ways. One of the biggest differences between men and women is that men, after some time, can automatically shut down all thought processes and become vegetated into things such as video games and occasional porn sessions. Suddenly, the women in their lives become non-existent. Women, on the other hand, are gentle creatures, charged with highly emotional brains. Even when we attempt to distract ourselves from the men in our lives, something reminds us of them. It's true. We can be walking around the mall and suddenly see a shirt on display and it happens. "Aww! Billy has a shirt like that!" Or we're driving down the beach and notice the car next to ours. "Aww...Billy's always wanted that car!" It's like a brain disease women have. However, this disease is also what draws men to feel intrigued by our existence. They thrive on the thoughtfulness of women. We nurture the ones we care about even when they're not around and we're constantly on a mission to better the relationship, even if there's a chance it might fail. We go to great lengths, often making ourselves uncomfortable in sexy lingerie or by sitting through a sport we don't care for. That's what WE do. If our existence WAS enough, we wouldn't take the time to curl our hair or apply that stupid bronzer on our cheeks to make our skin glow. But we do those things because we're hoping you'll take notice. Forget the fancy diamonds or ridiculously expensive roses. All we want is to know that you're thinking about us, the way we are often thinking about you. So guys, listen up. Romanticism does not depend on the credit limit on your Visa. It depends on how well you listen to the one you love.