It went from oh my to what a f@#ked up day!
I have had the worse day I have had in years and it had nothing to do with pain. I have been stepped on by friends and had my heart broke by love ones.
It is so hard for me as a man to not be able to make everything alright when my wife suffers with her mother. It was pure hell today I saw her heart ache and the look on her moms face of how could you blame me for anything after all I have done for you? Which has been jack shit! We sold our last house and moved into a bigger house so she could move in with us as she had no where else to go. Her own son would not take her as he knows how she is. The trouble comes when Jill asks her mother to clean up after herself. Well in her moms own eyes she is a Saint and can do no wrong and is above anyone telling her what to do. Well this has been brewing for months and today Jill snapped. I have never seen her like this in 15 years of marriage. Only to have her mother try and turn it on her. Which really set her off and me at that point. After all this I calm everyone down and Judy leaves to stay with a friend for a few days.
Now Jill and I have to make up our minds what we are going to do. Since the economy has turned Jill had to close her business and take a new job and a MAJOR cut in pay. We have had to cut just about every non ascential thing we use and put or own dreams on hold just so we have the money to pay for the house and Kodie's school.
Now onto the delima "Judy" Jill's mother has been paying rent for the last few months to help out. If she leaves we are shit out of luck and will have to sell the house we sunk all our money into. We will have to sell into a down market where we will lose 20 percent value.
Needless to say I am distressed! The last thing we want to do is lose the house.
I am not even going to get into the friend deal! I just feel really useless right now.
It is so hard for me as a man to not be able to make everything alright when my wife suffers with her mother. It was pure hell today I saw her heart ache and the look on her moms face of how could you blame me for anything after all I have done for you? Which has been jack shit! We sold our last house and moved into a bigger house so she could move in with us as she had no where else to go. Her own son would not take her as he knows how she is. The trouble comes when Jill asks her mother to clean up after herself. Well in her moms own eyes she is a Saint and can do no wrong and is above anyone telling her what to do. Well this has been brewing for months and today Jill snapped. I have never seen her like this in 15 years of marriage. Only to have her mother try and turn it on her. Which really set her off and me at that point. After all this I calm everyone down and Judy leaves to stay with a friend for a few days.
Now Jill and I have to make up our minds what we are going to do. Since the economy has turned Jill had to close her business and take a new job and a MAJOR cut in pay. We have had to cut just about every non ascential thing we use and put or own dreams on hold just so we have the money to pay for the house and Kodie's school.
Now onto the delima "Judy" Jill's mother has been paying rent for the last few months to help out. If she leaves we are shit out of luck and will have to sell the house we sunk all our money into. We will have to sell into a down market where we will lose 20 percent value.
Needless to say I am distressed! The last thing we want to do is lose the house.
I am not even going to get into the friend deal! I just feel really useless right now.