Something Emily Post Forgot To Cover.
So, what are the rules regarding mistresses?
Ok, here’s the dilemma. A co-worker (no, no really it’s not me) and her husband have been friends with another couple for almost 10 years. The couple recently split up, just after the new year, because the husband was cheating. They knew this couple because her husband has been friends with the snake-man-whore since they were kids. But, over 10 years, she has become very close to his soon to be ex-wife. Now, her husband wants to invite his friend and his new “girlfriend” over for dinner. She can barely stand the thought of the scumbag being in her house, she understands that her husband has been friends with him for over 20 years, but she wants absolutely nothing to do with the tramp. And doesn’t think she should have to.
Her husband says they shouldn’t take sides.
She says if they socialize with the HER, then they are taking sides. Because the STBEx finds out, it would really hurt her. And she is taking sides because only one person in this situation was lied to and has been humiliated.
They had a bit of a fight that ended with her telling her husband that if he wants to see his friend, she’s not going to stop him. But, she really doesn’t want to be around him right now. And there’s no way she’s spending any time with the tramp.
He thinks she’s being unreasonable noting that she doesn’t really know what was going on in the other couple’s marriage.
She’s not budging.
And I think she’s right. You shouldn’t have to spend time in your own home with people you don’t like.
Others say that she needs to understand that her husband is going to take sides with his friend no matter what. And she needs to get to used to the “new arrangement” because these people are going be in her life.
As for me;
Well, whenever I’m faced with a problem that involves the proper place and action of the wife in a good marriage, I always turn to the example of my dear, wise mother.
When a friend of my dad’s cheated on his wife, my mother made it clear that the “other woman” was not welcome in her house. Well, he came over to see my dad, and it was during the winter, my mom was just stayed out of their way. When he mentioned to my mother that “So-in-so was waiting in the car.”, my mother replied, “I hope you left the heater on for her.”
My dad, equally wise, said nothing.