my bed's too big for just me.
Interesting things have been happening and I had a very fun week and weekend thanks to some new friends. That is hardly the point, though. What is the point? Dating.
So, I have dated a little since Evan and I broke up, but nothing too serious. I mean, Andrew was way too soon after the breakup and almost instantly turned into total friendship. Actually, it barely even felt like much more than freindship. And then there was Bill, which never got serious in any way inspite of the legenth of time which we were hanging out.
I guess the question now is why? It's not like I haven't met people or had oppertunities. I mean, I haven't even touched anyone since September and I haven't had any real desire to do so. I decided a while ago that the next time I put myself out there I'm going to do so because I feel that the person has a lot of potential to be something serious. Good looks and a sense of humor are not enough anymore. I need to feel like there is a sense of depth and compassion and real long term potential with someone.
Now, don't get me wrong, you can never, ever predict the future. We never know how substantial of an impact the people we meet are going to have on our lives. We also never know how long someone is going to be in our life or to what degree. I'm just talking about that gut feeling with a little bit of knowledge to back it up.
This has become such a large issue very suddenly because I have met someone awesome. Not only someone awesome, but someone who has the same views on relationships as I do. For the record, they weren't just saying what I wanted to hear as the idea of my dating them didn't even exist at the time. So, now what? Haha. I feel like I'd love to just sit back and see what happens. I mean, not just wait for them to express their interest in me, though that has basically already been done, but do a no pressure dating thing. This happens to be a problem for two main reasons. The first is that they we broken up with a few months ago, ending a two year relationship. Now, I want to be sure to allow the appropriate amount of time to pass before anything happens. The other problem is that if I allow too much time to pass I will totally end up in the freind zone.
In the end, I'm basically really excited but torn about what to do and how to do it. I mean, I've met someone that I really want to get to know better and that is awesome... but I have no idea on how to go about it. Usually I'm really good at these things, right now, not so much so. I've established my interest and they have established theirs, I guess that's all I can do.
So, I have dated a little since Evan and I broke up, but nothing too serious. I mean, Andrew was way too soon after the breakup and almost instantly turned into total friendship. Actually, it barely even felt like much more than freindship. And then there was Bill, which never got serious in any way inspite of the legenth of time which we were hanging out.
I guess the question now is why? It's not like I haven't met people or had oppertunities. I mean, I haven't even touched anyone since September and I haven't had any real desire to do so. I decided a while ago that the next time I put myself out there I'm going to do so because I feel that the person has a lot of potential to be something serious. Good looks and a sense of humor are not enough anymore. I need to feel like there is a sense of depth and compassion and real long term potential with someone.
Now, don't get me wrong, you can never, ever predict the future. We never know how substantial of an impact the people we meet are going to have on our lives. We also never know how long someone is going to be in our life or to what degree. I'm just talking about that gut feeling with a little bit of knowledge to back it up.
This has become such a large issue very suddenly because I have met someone awesome. Not only someone awesome, but someone who has the same views on relationships as I do. For the record, they weren't just saying what I wanted to hear as the idea of my dating them didn't even exist at the time. So, now what? Haha. I feel like I'd love to just sit back and see what happens. I mean, not just wait for them to express their interest in me, though that has basically already been done, but do a no pressure dating thing. This happens to be a problem for two main reasons. The first is that they we broken up with a few months ago, ending a two year relationship. Now, I want to be sure to allow the appropriate amount of time to pass before anything happens. The other problem is that if I allow too much time to pass I will totally end up in the freind zone.
In the end, I'm basically really excited but torn about what to do and how to do it. I mean, I've met someone that I really want to get to know better and that is awesome... but I have no idea on how to go about it. Usually I'm really good at these things, right now, not so much so. I've established my interest and they have established theirs, I guess that's all I can do.