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[corky_621]

So I've got this problem. He would kill me if he knew I was letting you all know. It may not seem big to you all but its killing him. He has been very depressed about everything lately. I just cant stand to see him so angry and upset all the time. I know you all don't see it but its here. He is so upset at life and the fact that we work our asses

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[snigglefritz22]

You know, sometimes the families that try too hard are the most screwed up. Like, my friend April, her mom would make her and her sister, HollyAnn, write hundreds of sentences when they didn't do a chore on time. Grounded them for no reason. Grounded meaning, in your room alone with no TV or anything for days at a time. One time, she made HollyAnn eat an entire ring of balogna because she wanted it and it was going to go bad if she didn't. Another time, April got her mom a magnet went we went to Chicago, because her mom had been telling her things like, "you don't respect me." Her mom cut up the magnet and threw it away, saying, "I want your respect, not a $2 magnet." The woman wouldn't even hug April back when April hugged her goodnight. Outwardly, they are the perfect Christian family. Inside, they're all losing their minds.

I guess my point is maybe Jay's parents try too hard. But they still love him. And even if he is a little screwed up, he's a great dad to six kids. Yes, six. A better dad than most guys could ever be. He needs to remember that. If he wakes up thinking that today he's gonna make a difference, that's great. But thinks he's not making that difference, he's sorely mistaken. He doesn't have to be at work to make a difference. Does he not realize how much he means to Wy, Port, Colleen, Dan, Steve and Trin? And Kim and I? And to you? You guys aren't rich, but who in Redford is? If he (and you) continue to instill in those kids the values you have been, they'll pull through anything.

I hope Jay realizes that we (meaning Kim, Colleen and I) aren't just here for him to amuse. Which he does, but that's besides the point. He doesn't need to put up a facade when we're around, because we don't mind trying to help too.

Love, Mary

p.s. I wouldn't worry about him not loving you. At least, when I'm around, rarely have I seen a couple more devoted. I mean, you said it, he will not let the kids disrespect you. Which obviously means he respects you above all else. Happy Anniversary.

[corky_621]

you know..I try to tell him everyday how much of a diffrence he has made. His parents have his confidence so low that he doesn't beleive me. (Holding back the tears...) The day he came back into my life was the day I started to live. My life up to that point seemed useless, and there is no way to show him, besides what I have always done which is love him. I just wish something good would happen to help his confidence.