you do have to remember to assert your rights a little - like ferry said, you are the one who's paying for a service. normally here it's the other way around - drivers pay the team and think they own their mechanics arses! you can be respectful and polite but assert yourself, but as a girl there's not quite the same... politics as there is for men!
I think men have a greater tendency to talk down to women or assume they know better, and women often back away from outright confronting it. But in this case you are paying him to do a job he's not doing, and I think you have the right to push it with him (working in a *very* male-dominated profession, I get this all the time and it's infuriating!)
Does this mean I have to get my 'bitch-in-an-angel's-disguise' thing on again?
I hate to be bitchy. And I also don't think that being bitchy will solve this communication problam. But I also don't like pretending I'm not angry when I am.
For pete's sake I studied psychology and I usually have the knack of talking down to people that doesn't come up to my level to get them to understand me, understand what I want and then giving it to me. But maybe it's because the anger has been pent up for so long.. I'm scared that I might explode at the worst time...
I don't think it's so much as being bitchy as being assertive. I've had this with the workshop boys - they push it to see whether you'll push back and once you do, fine - you've proved yourself.
Is he a good mechanic? If he is, great - but he's not doing his job, the job you are paying him to do. You can respect his skills, but he needs to respect you too.
*these* boys have been pushing it with silence, it seems. But anyway yeah, I think I need to voice myself more.
Is he a good mechanic? Before 2 Sundays ago (when I broke my SECOND clutch within 1 month) I thought he was. But after the second broken clutch, after asking to other mechanics what might went wrong and got confirmation that it is NOT driver error... I'm having second thoughts.
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you do have to remember to assert your rights a little - like ferry said, you are the one who's paying for a service. normally here it's the other way around - drivers pay the team and think they own their mechanics arses! you can be respectful and polite but assert yourself, but as a girl there's not quite the same... politics as there is for men!
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thanks very much for the tip. i hope i'll be able to do it properly... next practice day..
*hugs again just because*
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Does this mean I have to get my 'bitch-in-an-angel's-disguise' thing on again?
I hate to be bitchy. And I also don't think that being bitchy will solve this communication problam. But I also don't like pretending I'm not angry when I am.
For pete's sake I studied psychology and I usually have the knack of talking down to people that doesn't come up to my level to get them to understand me, understand what I want and then giving it to me. But maybe it's because the anger has been pent up for so long.. I'm scared that I might explode at the worst time...
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Is he a good mechanic? If he is, great - but he's not doing his job, the job you are paying him to do. You can respect his skills, but he needs to respect you too.
Good luck :) *hugs*
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Is he a good mechanic? Before 2 Sundays ago (when I broke my SECOND clutch within 1 month) I thought he was. But after the second broken clutch, after asking to other mechanics what might went wrong and got confirmation that it is NOT driver error... I'm having second thoughts.
*clings* Thanks.
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