Just watched it. so no long-brewed thoughts, but my reaction to the show...
There was so much that resonated well for me in this episode. I liked Amelia's behaviour - she was honest, real and caring, for both men in her life. Not so much the dreadful 'Torn Between Two lovers' song, rather 'Weakness in me' by Joan Armatrading (a long time fave song of mine that truly reflects the awfulness of someone loving two people differently and well - and, I suppose it must be said, buying into the patriarchal notion of ownership and so not thinking about a gleesome threesome at all. Come on, woman!! You have two good blokes there - think creatively!!)).
Dean opened the scoring with an apology. SOP for Dean. But this time, he did it with A Tone, and Sam wasn't buying that, no sirree. But the later scene was truly I think a breakthrough for Dean. He wasn't in extremis, nothing was immediately dependent upon it but their relationship, but this time when he apologised for jealousy he did it with a great big dollop of wisdom and maturity. He wasn't speaking for Sam, he was being honest with himself and his brother about who he was and what he thought. It was lovely stuff, coming from that inexhaustible well of generosity he has for his bro.
Dean just seems so different this season. The despair isn't there; neither is the flirtatious fun. I think JA is playing him as a man who's been to both heaven and hell, and then had a side trip to Purgatory; nothing is as dreadful or as joyous as it once was. Having experienced those extremes, everything else is put into soft focus. In fact, dare I say it - I think Dean's on the road to Zen and the Art of Impala Maintenance.
I thought for one moment that his 'Off you trot to yer girl' line was about getting Sam out of the way so he could go to help Benny. I was both relieved that was not the case - because that would be driving another wedge between them - and saddened for both Benny and Dean. Theirs is the love that dare not speak its name. A Vampire and his Boy. No melodrama from Benny, straight up moral courage from Dean. He didn't blame Sam, as my cowardly little heart urged him to. No, he made the decision and bore the pain of it. Sam doesn't know what he asked of Dean there, and I doubt he ever will.
Castiel's storyline was fascinating, and well done. Lovely funny moments ("Yes, that's his serious face"), and some deeply troubling ones too. Naomi's a piece of work, but we knew that. (Why would Heaven choose industrial grey for its furnishings and clothing? Ugh.)
I just thoroughly enjoyed the whole thing. Didn't know where they'd go or what they'd do. Add in Crowley and colour me happy. (Except for the sudden zoom on Crowley's face towards the end there. Crass directing).