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So Halloween Weekend.... There's a craziness and a half.
So Weekend being Saturday, 'cause that's the only night I really did anything.
So my night started out with going to Eric's for a bit. I knew I couldn't stay long, but I thought it would be nice to chill with him for a bit. So he picked me up a round 6 and took me back to his place, where I met his girlfriend. Also named Becky. So we chilled for a bit, most people didn't get there til closer to 8, even though the party was supposed to start at 7. (I was Sonic the Hedgehog, btw.) So I stayed til about 8:30, watched a game of pong, played a game of pong. Met Eric's brother, Jeff (I think.) Pat gave me a hug when I left, it was sweet. He did tell me I was lame for leaving though.
Party 2: Fencing party
So it was kind of weird because a bunch of freshmen brought other people, so there were all these people that no one really knew. But whatever. Things were pretty chill, I guess party was just going on and happening and what not, people getting drunk.
And then I was sitting on the couch with Sam and David, talking to Sam and having a David attachment. Then Connie came over and said something like "See what a great party we can have when Jason isn't here?"
Now I have not posted much at all recently, and I haven't posted really at all about Connie-Jason bullshit, but let the background to this be sufficient at: shit happened between them and lately Connie has taken to bitching about Jason in front of the Freshmen fencers. Not telling them the whole story, mind, just things like "Jason raped me" (which he didn't do.) Well, I had had enough. And those of you that know me, know that I don't spend a lot of time getting angry ever, and even less time arguing with someone (outside of politics) I started off calm (in fact I maintained calm the entire time, which I'm pretty sure only made Connie all the more angry) basically maintaining the position that it wasn't ok to talk shit about Jason in front of the freshmen because as one of the people that leads practice, he needs their respect. Besides the fact that talking shit about him when he isn't there to defend himself, to people that have no idea what you are talking about it just lame.
And she just lost it. Yelling, the whole thing. Decided that there was nothing at all wrong with her behavior, that the freshmen needed to be warned that he was terrible person, etc. She kind of lost any sort of creative argument once I pointed out that the freshmen weren't getting that idea, the only thing they understood was that she disliked Jason. Her argument basically became "SO?" after that. The fact that I had defeated her point didn't seem to occur to her. She kind of just kept shouting after that. Somewhere in there she decided that I was defending Jason and what he had done, which I wasn't. Then she kept storming off and then coming back to shout some more. David kept trying to get me to stop, because I clearly wasn't going to win. What I wasn't able to tell him was that there really wasn't a point in stopping which was clear from her repeated returns to shout some more and the fact that she sent me 5 text messages after she left continuing to bitch me out, the last of which demanded an apology.
After the last time that she actually stormed out, the Vets either thanked more for saying all that I had or informed me that while they felt the same way they had never bothered to say anything, because they knew it wouldn't make a difference. To which I responded that I knew what I said wouldn't change anything, but I had just had enough and couldn't take it anymore. So the making Beki feel better had started with completely having Vet fencer support.
Step 2 of making Beki feel better came when all of the Freshmen that were at the party came over to ask me what the hell had just happened. With this came the knowledge that even if Connie hadn't actually left the apartment, just the room, the exact same thing would have happened because they all know me better then they know her. I got some quite sincere thanks from some people, a bunch of what the hells, some confused "Well, I didn't really know what to think about Jason, because she keeps saying he raped her, but everyone else seems to like him and I don't think the would if he had done that" comments, to which I reassured them that that was true, and we wouldn't like Jason if he had raped her, but he hadn't. And that he really was a nice guy.
These comments essentially summing up all the points I had made in that, the freshmen really didn't know what she was talking about, honestly didn't care that much, and really didn't get that Jason was evil, just that she didn't like him.
Anyway, after some discussion along these lines, I left with the Freshmen and walked with them to the bus figuring i'd take the bus part way and save myself the 20 minute walk
I didn't address really anything that was in the first 4 text messages, because I didn't see them until we were at the bus stop and I really didn't feel like trying to respond to them right then. Mostly cause i didn't care what she had to say anymore... I figured I would respond once I got home
Which leads us to...
Party 3: Random CMU party:
So, the inside the bus light up announcer thing randomly stopped working so I missed my stop by 2 stops. I got off the bus, saying bye to freshmen and started walking back from Neville to Morewood. On the way there some people shouted "Hey I like your mohawk!" So I stopped and thanked them. They asked what my costume was and I said Sonic and we started chatting a bit. I got into a mohawk competition (which i easily won) with this kid Benji. Then one of them was like, "hey, you should come party with us!" and they seemed nice and I had my own bottle of American Honey in my bag, so I figured why not? and said "okay!" So I walked with them, kind of spewed the whole fencing bullshit at this kid Naeem and went to the party with them. Which was tons of fun, I just stood around talking to random strangers and drinking and sharing my whiskey. Benji and I had more mohawk discussions and I started dancing with some people. I stayed there about 2 hours talked to a whole bunch of different people and had the most fun that I had had all night. The party was pretty much dead around 3 and Naeem and this guy I met at the party walked me home.
Party 3 definitely made my halloween.
When I got home was when I saw the text demanding the apology. I sent a series of texts back apologizing for the fact that she thought I was defending Jason and that I had kind of told her that she should just get over it... (which I think she should, but whatever) I didn't apologize for any of the things I had intended to say though (although it is possible that she thinks I did...) I later sent her a bunch of texts explaining that I just didn't understand why it was so hard for her to get over when she had Alex now and was always talking about how wonderful that was. She explained and then apologized for all the nasty things she had said to me. So things seemed like they were fine now and we talked a bunch this afternoon and it seemed all normal and comfy. I'm glad I didn't lose her over this, but even if I had... I don't know. She was way out of line. And it was kind of sad to see at the party that everyone thought so. I mean her friends still love her, but they don't support any of her actions. They just try to ignore them because they know it isn't worth bringing up. So while I am glad that we are still friends, it's also kind of nice to know that even if I lost the person that brought me into the club and into these friends - I'd still have all of those friends, plus all the freshmen. The freshmen love me, mostly because I'm like the one vet that has put effort into talking/hanging with them.
Anyway, this was a really long post. I'm done now.
<3
Beki
So Weekend being Saturday, 'cause that's the only night I really did anything.
So my night started out with going to Eric's for a bit. I knew I couldn't stay long, but I thought it would be nice to chill with him for a bit. So he picked me up a round 6 and took me back to his place, where I met his girlfriend. Also named Becky. So we chilled for a bit, most people didn't get there til closer to 8, even though the party was supposed to start at 7. (I was Sonic the Hedgehog, btw.) So I stayed til about 8:30, watched a game of pong, played a game of pong. Met Eric's brother, Jeff (I think.) Pat gave me a hug when I left, it was sweet. He did tell me I was lame for leaving though.
Party 2: Fencing party
So it was kind of weird because a bunch of freshmen brought other people, so there were all these people that no one really knew. But whatever. Things were pretty chill, I guess party was just going on and happening and what not, people getting drunk.
And then I was sitting on the couch with Sam and David, talking to Sam and having a David attachment. Then Connie came over and said something like "See what a great party we can have when Jason isn't here?"
Now I have not posted much at all recently, and I haven't posted really at all about Connie-Jason bullshit, but let the background to this be sufficient at: shit happened between them and lately Connie has taken to bitching about Jason in front of the Freshmen fencers. Not telling them the whole story, mind, just things like "Jason raped me" (which he didn't do.) Well, I had had enough. And those of you that know me, know that I don't spend a lot of time getting angry ever, and even less time arguing with someone (outside of politics) I started off calm (in fact I maintained calm the entire time, which I'm pretty sure only made Connie all the more angry) basically maintaining the position that it wasn't ok to talk shit about Jason in front of the freshmen because as one of the people that leads practice, he needs their respect. Besides the fact that talking shit about him when he isn't there to defend himself, to people that have no idea what you are talking about it just lame.
And she just lost it. Yelling, the whole thing. Decided that there was nothing at all wrong with her behavior, that the freshmen needed to be warned that he was terrible person, etc. She kind of lost any sort of creative argument once I pointed out that the freshmen weren't getting that idea, the only thing they understood was that she disliked Jason. Her argument basically became "SO?" after that. The fact that I had defeated her point didn't seem to occur to her. She kind of just kept shouting after that. Somewhere in there she decided that I was defending Jason and what he had done, which I wasn't. Then she kept storming off and then coming back to shout some more. David kept trying to get me to stop, because I clearly wasn't going to win. What I wasn't able to tell him was that there really wasn't a point in stopping which was clear from her repeated returns to shout some more and the fact that she sent me 5 text messages after she left continuing to bitch me out, the last of which demanded an apology.
After the last time that she actually stormed out, the Vets either thanked more for saying all that I had or informed me that while they felt the same way they had never bothered to say anything, because they knew it wouldn't make a difference. To which I responded that I knew what I said wouldn't change anything, but I had just had enough and couldn't take it anymore. So the making Beki feel better had started with completely having Vet fencer support.
Step 2 of making Beki feel better came when all of the Freshmen that were at the party came over to ask me what the hell had just happened. With this came the knowledge that even if Connie hadn't actually left the apartment, just the room, the exact same thing would have happened because they all know me better then they know her. I got some quite sincere thanks from some people, a bunch of what the hells, some confused "Well, I didn't really know what to think about Jason, because she keeps saying he raped her, but everyone else seems to like him and I don't think the would if he had done that" comments, to which I reassured them that that was true, and we wouldn't like Jason if he had raped her, but he hadn't. And that he really was a nice guy.
These comments essentially summing up all the points I had made in that, the freshmen really didn't know what she was talking about, honestly didn't care that much, and really didn't get that Jason was evil, just that she didn't like him.
Anyway, after some discussion along these lines, I left with the Freshmen and walked with them to the bus figuring i'd take the bus part way and save myself the 20 minute walk
I didn't address really anything that was in the first 4 text messages, because I didn't see them until we were at the bus stop and I really didn't feel like trying to respond to them right then. Mostly cause i didn't care what she had to say anymore... I figured I would respond once I got home
Which leads us to...
Party 3: Random CMU party:
So, the inside the bus light up announcer thing randomly stopped working so I missed my stop by 2 stops. I got off the bus, saying bye to freshmen and started walking back from Neville to Morewood. On the way there some people shouted "Hey I like your mohawk!" So I stopped and thanked them. They asked what my costume was and I said Sonic and we started chatting a bit. I got into a mohawk competition (which i easily won) with this kid Benji. Then one of them was like, "hey, you should come party with us!" and they seemed nice and I had my own bottle of American Honey in my bag, so I figured why not? and said "okay!" So I walked with them, kind of spewed the whole fencing bullshit at this kid Naeem and went to the party with them. Which was tons of fun, I just stood around talking to random strangers and drinking and sharing my whiskey. Benji and I had more mohawk discussions and I started dancing with some people. I stayed there about 2 hours talked to a whole bunch of different people and had the most fun that I had had all night. The party was pretty much dead around 3 and Naeem and this guy I met at the party walked me home.
Party 3 definitely made my halloween.
When I got home was when I saw the text demanding the apology. I sent a series of texts back apologizing for the fact that she thought I was defending Jason and that I had kind of told her that she should just get over it... (which I think she should, but whatever) I didn't apologize for any of the things I had intended to say though (although it is possible that she thinks I did...) I later sent her a bunch of texts explaining that I just didn't understand why it was so hard for her to get over when she had Alex now and was always talking about how wonderful that was. She explained and then apologized for all the nasty things she had said to me. So things seemed like they were fine now and we talked a bunch this afternoon and it seemed all normal and comfy. I'm glad I didn't lose her over this, but even if I had... I don't know. She was way out of line. And it was kind of sad to see at the party that everyone thought so. I mean her friends still love her, but they don't support any of her actions. They just try to ignore them because they know it isn't worth bringing up. So while I am glad that we are still friends, it's also kind of nice to know that even if I lost the person that brought me into the club and into these friends - I'd still have all of those friends, plus all the freshmen. The freshmen love me, mostly because I'm like the one vet that has put effort into talking/hanging with them.
Anyway, this was a really long post. I'm done now.
<3
Beki