KIT.
The other day, I hit up my line sister because we had been emailing back and forth and I hadn't heard back from her for like 2 months. Turns out it was a sending error, and she had emailed me back but I never got it and she thought I wasn't replying...!
Freaking ymail.
Anyway, I wound up saying this to her and how I hate trying to keep in touch with people to no avail. It's quite frustrating, especially as my friends mean a lot to me, and I like to think of them like extensions of fam. She agreed, saying friends are important to her as well, and while we know we will grow apart from some people, no matter if we try, it doesn't make it any easier. It's so very true. It's like losing a friend, except more slowly and pretty wearing. Keeping in touch could be hard, I won't lie, given all the work we have to do, our own lives, the distances, and time differences galore.
Nonetheless, if you deem it important enough, you manage your time, and take those 15 minutes out of the day to keep it up. It's really not so hard, which is probably why I get so aggravated when trying to KIT with people who can't be assed to take time out to even say hello once in a while.
I mean technology has made it pretty convenient, so it's even less of an excuse to not do it. And I'm tired of chasing people down, I always do. Not that I am the 100% perfect friend, but usually it is me.
Only to get a reply like, "Well, I guess it's all or nothing with me."
Well, I'm glad our friendship dating back to high school is all or nothing nowadays. That's what it means, eh?
Great.
It's funny because my mom will excuse people too, like, "Oh, they're a 23 year old boy, what do they know." "They have issues." No. No. There's a time where you're too old for excuses and such. No more sliding. I hand out chances alllll the time, way too many, probably. And I'm not chasing people down when I'm home. It hurts me, but I can't keep doing it. It's time to fucking grow up and stop being a kid about how you treat things. Treat friendship as it should be treated or you'll lose people, or lose the level of friendship.
However, I'm pretty good at keeping in touch, even with the time differences, etc. And in that, I have higher expecations from people, like my line sister, who is going into OCS Navy training in February.
"You're good with the pen pal writing thing, so I fully expect snail mail from you while I'm in Newport! Miss you Magz."
Oh, brother. :P
I miss being called Magz. :P
Anyway, moral of the story is, keep in touch, suckers, if people mean something to you. Take those 15 minutes of possibly being 'tired' to say hello. We're always tired anyway.
Man, I must sound crazy. but hearing things too from here really agitates me, I don't know why I care so much. I am a bunch of miles away. But I guess, like my big said, if they were an ocean away, maybe it'd change their perspective.
Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.
Freaking ymail.
Anyway, I wound up saying this to her and how I hate trying to keep in touch with people to no avail. It's quite frustrating, especially as my friends mean a lot to me, and I like to think of them like extensions of fam. She agreed, saying friends are important to her as well, and while we know we will grow apart from some people, no matter if we try, it doesn't make it any easier. It's so very true. It's like losing a friend, except more slowly and pretty wearing. Keeping in touch could be hard, I won't lie, given all the work we have to do, our own lives, the distances, and time differences galore.
Nonetheless, if you deem it important enough, you manage your time, and take those 15 minutes out of the day to keep it up. It's really not so hard, which is probably why I get so aggravated when trying to KIT with people who can't be assed to take time out to even say hello once in a while.
I mean technology has made it pretty convenient, so it's even less of an excuse to not do it. And I'm tired of chasing people down, I always do. Not that I am the 100% perfect friend, but usually it is me.
Only to get a reply like, "Well, I guess it's all or nothing with me."
Well, I'm glad our friendship dating back to high school is all or nothing nowadays. That's what it means, eh?
Great.
It's funny because my mom will excuse people too, like, "Oh, they're a 23 year old boy, what do they know." "They have issues." No. No. There's a time where you're too old for excuses and such. No more sliding. I hand out chances alllll the time, way too many, probably. And I'm not chasing people down when I'm home. It hurts me, but I can't keep doing it. It's time to fucking grow up and stop being a kid about how you treat things. Treat friendship as it should be treated or you'll lose people, or lose the level of friendship.
However, I'm pretty good at keeping in touch, even with the time differences, etc. And in that, I have higher expecations from people, like my line sister, who is going into OCS Navy training in February.
"You're good with the pen pal writing thing, so I fully expect snail mail from you while I'm in Newport! Miss you Magz."
Oh, brother. :P
I miss being called Magz. :P
Anyway, moral of the story is, keep in touch, suckers, if people mean something to you. Take those 15 minutes of possibly being 'tired' to say hello. We're always tired anyway.
Man, I must sound crazy. but hearing things too from here really agitates me, I don't know why I care so much. I am a bunch of miles away. But I guess, like my big said, if they were an ocean away, maybe it'd change their perspective.
Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.