Is it killing you like it's killing me.
One of my best friend's back home recently cut things off with her ex. She sent me an email updating me in reply to mine. In it, she mused, " Love's a funny thing...I still don't get it. I mean, like how can you say you love someone and then not care any more or like check in every so often and genuinely be interested?"
This question is one that drove me out of my own mind with my ex. I know exactly what she means. Fighting with someone, in our case, while excessive fighting is not healthy, when you finally broach something and get a passive acceptance or no fight at all, hurts a lot more than actually getting a fight back.
It also tosses it up in the air, whether you actually meant what you've said to the person, or if they ever loved you. If so, you wonder, how do they just ignore it?
While we may want the space, while we may want time, while we may give up, in her case and mine (that of fighters), we are also testing and hoping that you won't so easily fade into the background. That you'll try and bother us anyway, because in our minds it reaffirms what you've said in the past. What you've meant.
Girls are fun, I know, but I know I'm always waiting for a fight equal to the one I've put out. Nothing's as heartbreaking and doubt-inducing as passivity, silence, and simple acceptance.
It means you've failed the test and let us down all over again.
At least in the case of the hopeful, the fighters, the ones who want to build a stronger relationship through it. To be proven that this really did mean something to you. And to not have us feeling wasted, spent, for what?
Try, try, try. Like I've been telling my other friend wanting to be back with another. Simple acceptance gets you nowhere.
Hmm, I know, we're so much fun. But it's really quite simple. (Blame movies and books, if you like.)
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This question is one that drove me out of my own mind with my ex. I know exactly what she means. Fighting with someone, in our case, while excessive fighting is not healthy, when you finally broach something and get a passive acceptance or no fight at all, hurts a lot more than actually getting a fight back.
It also tosses it up in the air, whether you actually meant what you've said to the person, or if they ever loved you. If so, you wonder, how do they just ignore it?
While we may want the space, while we may want time, while we may give up, in her case and mine (that of fighters), we are also testing and hoping that you won't so easily fade into the background. That you'll try and bother us anyway, because in our minds it reaffirms what you've said in the past. What you've meant.
Girls are fun, I know, but I know I'm always waiting for a fight equal to the one I've put out. Nothing's as heartbreaking and doubt-inducing as passivity, silence, and simple acceptance.
It means you've failed the test and let us down all over again.
At least in the case of the hopeful, the fighters, the ones who want to build a stronger relationship through it. To be proven that this really did mean something to you. And to not have us feeling wasted, spent, for what?
Try, try, try. Like I've been telling my other friend wanting to be back with another. Simple acceptance gets you nowhere.
Hmm, I know, we're so much fun. But it's really quite simple. (Blame movies and books, if you like.)
Posted via LjBeetle