about time
So I figured maybe now was as good a time as any for an update.
First-
I got engaged, and I was supposed to type how it happened, but I just haven't gotten around to it. Basically he pulled the wool over my eyes- BIG TIME! Throughout the course of our relationship I'd managed to inadvertently ruin every surprise, either because I figured it out or through some other means. We went from it sort of backwards because we knew we wanted to get married in August, and thus had to be engaged early enough before that to plan the wedding. By February and March I was starting to get nervous, but he kept telling me it would be in May and too relax. I wasn't totally convinced that he was telling the truth, and sure it may seem weird that he would tell me it was in May, but I also figured he knew he had to give me a general time frame at that point, otherwise I would have a complete anyeurism.
So he told me for months, mentioned really, that his parents wanted to host a party for him at their house. They've been remodeling, and we've done a lot of driving up there to move furniture, unload trucks, paint stuff, whatever. They were almost done at the house, so he said they wanted to a)make use of the place and b)say thank you by hosting a little get together. So it made sense. Then the party happened to fall at the end of Spring Break, so Davin invited some So.Fla. friends to come up, and a couple of them (my best fried/maid of honor-Christina, Lexi and Kemise) came up. It kinda made sense cause Christina REALLY needed a little break from nursing school and we hadn't hung out at all lately, and since it was Spring Break, the others were supposedly also taking a little fun trip, and plus they are just crazy like that to take a random trip ;)
So there we are at the party, a bunch of his friends, some of my local girlfriends, and of course the So.Fla. friends. My grandma freaked me out and showed up randomly- see my Aunt and Uncle who live near my grandparents had been invited, but couldn't make it. I'd be told my grandma wasn't going to be invited, mainly because she's kinda nuts. So when she called to ask for directions, I figured she'd caught wind of the party from my Uncle and invited herself- which, if you know my grandma, is something she would do. So, also not weird. ANYWAY- we all somehow ended up in the living room, the focal point of which is a giant flat panel TV that Davin's dad just bought. Davin stepped up and said "I just want to thank everyone for coming. As most of you know this house has been a long time process, and the new focal point is this TV- let me give you a little demonstration." At this point I elbowed Danielle (one of my fantastic bridesmaids) and said "That's weird, Davin isn't really a speech kinda guy. I'm so special cause I know he's gonna propose and anytime anything happens I'm convinced he's going to even if I know he's not." She elbowed me back and told me to hush.
Well, it turns out the things he was showing was a DVD he'd had made with the help of my friend Ande in NYC and her boyfriend. He wrote scripts, contacted them, they got professional actors and actresses and filmed this amazing thing which was essentially the biography of our relationship - when we first met, our first date, our first kiss, the first time he said "I love you", our first fight (lol), him not getting to try out for the football team, first discussing marriage, etc. It was beautiful- filmed all in black and white, and the song "Collide" by Howie Day playing in the background. As the video portion wound down, it faded into a black screen and our song came on (Rascal Flatts- "God Bless the Broken Road"). He pulled me up to the front of the room, and first turned me around - he'd flown my Mom down from Missouri, and my aunts and cousins from the Orlando area were all there! He whispered his proposal in my ear (all the I love yous and stuff- my sister makes fun of me because I can't remember it exactly, I just kept thinking "i have to say 'yes' soon, when am I supposed to say it, oh my god, is this really happening!") After that he got down on one knee, pulled out the ring and asked if I would marry him- and of course I said yes. It was really awesome cause after that it was an engagement party with cake and BBQ and lots of fun! Everyone cried- even most of his friends cried (big babies!).
So- he's awesome.
Second
Wedding planning really isn't fun. I'm so excited about being married, but I honestly dread the process and dread the wedding itself. I don't look forward to it. I think I'd rather it just be me and him and our bridesmaid and groomsmen cause those are the people we care about the most- and our immediately family I suppose, just parents and grandparents. But this is the problem you run into because then you start throwing in an uncle, and you can't invite just one uncle, you have to invite them all, then you throw in the cousin and so on and before you know it you have a guest list tipping the scales at 230 people. OUCH! All the decisions- linens, food, should we use this flower or this flower, and the budget, oh my god, the budget. I know it might sound pessimistic or ungrateful or whatever- but I hate it. I'd elope but I think it would really piss off and hurt alot of people- like grandparents who may not be alive for other weddings, and Davin is hte only grandson, so everyone wants to be there for his wedding. There are just so many things- graduating, getting new jobs, possibly moving and the wedding and its just a challenege.
I'm just so tired, and there are just so many things to work on. Thankfully, my bridesmaids are awesome- I love love love love them. And I have friends who are doing alot to help- one is hooking me up with free linens for example (she's a manager at a Disney restaurant). So...hopefully it will be okay.
What I do know is this:
I love my future husband more than anything. He is absolutely incredible.
First-
I got engaged, and I was supposed to type how it happened, but I just haven't gotten around to it. Basically he pulled the wool over my eyes- BIG TIME! Throughout the course of our relationship I'd managed to inadvertently ruin every surprise, either because I figured it out or through some other means. We went from it sort of backwards because we knew we wanted to get married in August, and thus had to be engaged early enough before that to plan the wedding. By February and March I was starting to get nervous, but he kept telling me it would be in May and too relax. I wasn't totally convinced that he was telling the truth, and sure it may seem weird that he would tell me it was in May, but I also figured he knew he had to give me a general time frame at that point, otherwise I would have a complete anyeurism.
So he told me for months, mentioned really, that his parents wanted to host a party for him at their house. They've been remodeling, and we've done a lot of driving up there to move furniture, unload trucks, paint stuff, whatever. They were almost done at the house, so he said they wanted to a)make use of the place and b)say thank you by hosting a little get together. So it made sense. Then the party happened to fall at the end of Spring Break, so Davin invited some So.Fla. friends to come up, and a couple of them (my best fried/maid of honor-Christina, Lexi and Kemise) came up. It kinda made sense cause Christina REALLY needed a little break from nursing school and we hadn't hung out at all lately, and since it was Spring Break, the others were supposedly also taking a little fun trip, and plus they are just crazy like that to take a random trip ;)
So there we are at the party, a bunch of his friends, some of my local girlfriends, and of course the So.Fla. friends. My grandma freaked me out and showed up randomly- see my Aunt and Uncle who live near my grandparents had been invited, but couldn't make it. I'd be told my grandma wasn't going to be invited, mainly because she's kinda nuts. So when she called to ask for directions, I figured she'd caught wind of the party from my Uncle and invited herself- which, if you know my grandma, is something she would do. So, also not weird. ANYWAY- we all somehow ended up in the living room, the focal point of which is a giant flat panel TV that Davin's dad just bought. Davin stepped up and said "I just want to thank everyone for coming. As most of you know this house has been a long time process, and the new focal point is this TV- let me give you a little demonstration." At this point I elbowed Danielle (one of my fantastic bridesmaids) and said "That's weird, Davin isn't really a speech kinda guy. I'm so special cause I know he's gonna propose and anytime anything happens I'm convinced he's going to even if I know he's not." She elbowed me back and told me to hush.
Well, it turns out the things he was showing was a DVD he'd had made with the help of my friend Ande in NYC and her boyfriend. He wrote scripts, contacted them, they got professional actors and actresses and filmed this amazing thing which was essentially the biography of our relationship - when we first met, our first date, our first kiss, the first time he said "I love you", our first fight (lol), him not getting to try out for the football team, first discussing marriage, etc. It was beautiful- filmed all in black and white, and the song "Collide" by Howie Day playing in the background. As the video portion wound down, it faded into a black screen and our song came on (Rascal Flatts- "God Bless the Broken Road"). He pulled me up to the front of the room, and first turned me around - he'd flown my Mom down from Missouri, and my aunts and cousins from the Orlando area were all there! He whispered his proposal in my ear (all the I love yous and stuff- my sister makes fun of me because I can't remember it exactly, I just kept thinking "i have to say 'yes' soon, when am I supposed to say it, oh my god, is this really happening!") After that he got down on one knee, pulled out the ring and asked if I would marry him- and of course I said yes. It was really awesome cause after that it was an engagement party with cake and BBQ and lots of fun! Everyone cried- even most of his friends cried (big babies!).
So- he's awesome.
Second
Wedding planning really isn't fun. I'm so excited about being married, but I honestly dread the process and dread the wedding itself. I don't look forward to it. I think I'd rather it just be me and him and our bridesmaid and groomsmen cause those are the people we care about the most- and our immediately family I suppose, just parents and grandparents. But this is the problem you run into because then you start throwing in an uncle, and you can't invite just one uncle, you have to invite them all, then you throw in the cousin and so on and before you know it you have a guest list tipping the scales at 230 people. OUCH! All the decisions- linens, food, should we use this flower or this flower, and the budget, oh my god, the budget. I know it might sound pessimistic or ungrateful or whatever- but I hate it. I'd elope but I think it would really piss off and hurt alot of people- like grandparents who may not be alive for other weddings, and Davin is hte only grandson, so everyone wants to be there for his wedding. There are just so many things- graduating, getting new jobs, possibly moving and the wedding and its just a challenege.
I'm just so tired, and there are just so many things to work on. Thankfully, my bridesmaids are awesome- I love love love love them. And I have friends who are doing alot to help- one is hooking me up with free linens for example (she's a manager at a Disney restaurant). So...hopefully it will be okay.
What I do know is this:
I love my future husband more than anything. He is absolutely incredible.