Overweight white female seeks non-theistic sponsor, must like dogs

[conceptcanibal]

I went to my third meeting last night. Hooray! It took a cup of coffee and some serious internal dialog to get there though. I wanted to go home and clean up after a very shed-dy house guest. I wanted to take a bath. I wanted to eat... a lot. That last little bit made me go to the meeting. I needed my fellow peers in OA to keep me sane. I have

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[conceptcanibal]

Well, yes and no. If the result of making amends is agony or more damaging then just letting things go, then contact is not recommended. But if the agony and damage is just because you may have to hear what the other person has to say about you, then that shouldn't stop you from making amends. To make amends is to change something, and I don't believe it is meant to stir up drama or anything along those lines. It's more like a sincere apology, an opportunity for the other person or persons to tell you what they may need to say, and a moment to rectify the situation. So for example, if you stole money from a friend's bed post, you would need to tell them that you did it, apologize for it, and then pay them back. Does that make sense?

A good example of when NOT to apologize is if you were the "other woman" in an affair, and you knew the man's wife did NOT know it happened. Telling her then would only cause hurt, pain, and grief. However, if you were pretty sure she did know, it may cause a lot of closure and a sense of relief. You know? You may receive some hurtful comments, but that's a part of the process. You can apologize for those and if there's a way to fix it, you do everything in your power to make it right.