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So my friend, Heather and I went out for some dinner tonight. And we happened to get into a conversation on the way back about potential gifts that her parents are likely to give to her for "graduation?" So it came down to:
1. New Car
2. Used BMW
3. Breast Implants
And our conversation went as follows. Now Heather isn't the most fit girl around; however, she's always reminiscing about how she used to look. Which is fine by all means, but she keeps on referring to it as her natural or normal weight. I don't expect she'll ever get back to that weight unless she goes to some drastic measures. She weighs more than I do and is 5'0. What I'm worried about is that she insists that she needs to get a "boob job" because it's better for her. And I asked her why it was better. She never came up with a legitimate reason other than, "Because it's what I want. It just IS" She had started to get emotional about this through our conversation, which signaled me to back off. I was just asking questions as to why she wanted it or what reasons are supporting her decision. She kept on saying that "people go to the gym to look better. Should they stop going?" was her rhetorical question to me. But some people stay fit for health reasons. Having your body augmented is purely for aesthetic reasons. I guess my concern is with her own self esteem, when she insists that she is not insecure with her body. And yet this is something that she feels so strongly about that she starts to tear up. I had never thought her to have these yearnings, but it definitely gives me insight into her real motivations. She cares a lot about what other people think of her. And she has also lied to myself and my friends the last time she came and hung out with us. I think that she has some goals, which is good in driving her motivation in life, but she needs to realize that some of them are unrealistic. Yes, I am judging her... And I would think my disposition was more out of concern than it is harm. It's what you do for friends.
1. New Car
2. Used BMW
3. Breast Implants
And our conversation went as follows. Now Heather isn't the most fit girl around; however, she's always reminiscing about how she used to look. Which is fine by all means, but she keeps on referring to it as her natural or normal weight. I don't expect she'll ever get back to that weight unless she goes to some drastic measures. She weighs more than I do and is 5'0. What I'm worried about is that she insists that she needs to get a "boob job" because it's better for her. And I asked her why it was better. She never came up with a legitimate reason other than, "Because it's what I want. It just IS" She had started to get emotional about this through our conversation, which signaled me to back off. I was just asking questions as to why she wanted it or what reasons are supporting her decision. She kept on saying that "people go to the gym to look better. Should they stop going?" was her rhetorical question to me. But some people stay fit for health reasons. Having your body augmented is purely for aesthetic reasons. I guess my concern is with her own self esteem, when she insists that she is not insecure with her body. And yet this is something that she feels so strongly about that she starts to tear up. I had never thought her to have these yearnings, but it definitely gives me insight into her real motivations. She cares a lot about what other people think of her. And she has also lied to myself and my friends the last time she came and hung out with us. I think that she has some goals, which is good in driving her motivation in life, but she needs to realize that some of them are unrealistic. Yes, I am judging her... And I would think my disposition was more out of concern than it is harm. It's what you do for friends.