Can anybody Help me?
I need some help, advice. words of encouragement, sanity....
Cailin got her first bad behaviour report from daycare yesterday...her teacher said she has been very aggressive with the other children lately, wont listen, smacks their hands and says "no!", yells at them for being bad, but worse of all, hits and kicks at them when she gets angry. Her teacher says she exhibits a lot of pent up anger lately....
The first and most obvious choice in well, she has a little sister at home now...she doesn't get all the attention and sometimes when she WANTS attention, she doesn't get it....but I'm not certain that is the whole problem...we give her as much one-on-one attention as possible, make her a regular part of caring for Regan, let her help us, kept her schedule the same as much as possible, encourage her to talk to us.....anything we can do to show her that she still is important to us - just as important as Regan is....
Weeks before Regan was born, we all noticed Cailin was getting more and more mouthy...she'd come home and say things like "I'm not happy with you!" and "You're not listening to me!" She play acted on her dolls that they were bad and in time out. Both of those statements did NOT come from home....she was starting to be more aggressive with Michael but we didn't think anything of it because they mostly were just playing together and she IS two so a more mouthy Cailin was to be expected...
The teachers don't seem concerned...they say it's normal especially with a little baby at home to show this type of behaviour...however, I'm very concerned...this is not the behaviour of my daughter..
The more I thought about it, I think more of it is coming from daycare than they want to admit...the play acting shows that to us....and I don't think Regan is the cause - she loves and kisses on Regan like you wouldn't believe and aside from just being a little rough with her (a concept she doesn't understand totally) she has never shown and aggression toward the baby....and any aggression she shows toward us is usually in play - which we are quick to point out when it goes too far...
I feel like I am failing my daughter....like I am missing something that is important to sort all this out....I know there are no easy answers and that psychoanalyzing a two year old is mostly pointless...but can anyone shed some light on how to handle this?? I am beside myself about this...more than I have been about anything in a long time...
Teachers, Moms, Psychologizing Friends out there...help??
Cailin got her first bad behaviour report from daycare yesterday...her teacher said she has been very aggressive with the other children lately, wont listen, smacks their hands and says "no!", yells at them for being bad, but worse of all, hits and kicks at them when she gets angry. Her teacher says she exhibits a lot of pent up anger lately....
The first and most obvious choice in well, she has a little sister at home now...she doesn't get all the attention and sometimes when she WANTS attention, she doesn't get it....but I'm not certain that is the whole problem...we give her as much one-on-one attention as possible, make her a regular part of caring for Regan, let her help us, kept her schedule the same as much as possible, encourage her to talk to us.....anything we can do to show her that she still is important to us - just as important as Regan is....
Weeks before Regan was born, we all noticed Cailin was getting more and more mouthy...she'd come home and say things like "I'm not happy with you!" and "You're not listening to me!" She play acted on her dolls that they were bad and in time out. Both of those statements did NOT come from home....she was starting to be more aggressive with Michael but we didn't think anything of it because they mostly were just playing together and she IS two so a more mouthy Cailin was to be expected...
The teachers don't seem concerned...they say it's normal especially with a little baby at home to show this type of behaviour...however, I'm very concerned...this is not the behaviour of my daughter..
The more I thought about it, I think more of it is coming from daycare than they want to admit...the play acting shows that to us....and I don't think Regan is the cause - she loves and kisses on Regan like you wouldn't believe and aside from just being a little rough with her (a concept she doesn't understand totally) she has never shown and aggression toward the baby....and any aggression she shows toward us is usually in play - which we are quick to point out when it goes too far...
I feel like I am failing my daughter....like I am missing something that is important to sort all this out....I know there are no easy answers and that psychoanalyzing a two year old is mostly pointless...but can anyone shed some light on how to handle this?? I am beside myself about this...more than I have been about anything in a long time...
Teachers, Moms, Psychologizing Friends out there...help??