Hands off OUR wedding!
So my wedding is in less than 2 months now, which I am super excited about... but I wish people could just leave our arrangements in place.
When I could have REALLY used help about 6 months ago, no one was there to help. We already put our wedding off when we would have liked April 18th, but we apparently couldn't have it within one year of my brother's wedding. I mean, I guess if my parents really wanted to help, I could understand with saving up and all, it costs more than a pretty penny. Anyway though, even though I didn't know how much we'd have and all, I went out on a limb and reserved some things and places hoping it would work and could happen this summer.
So they had a shower/party for us in Birmingham last Saturday. Sunday my parents came over to his Dad and step mom's for brunch and my parents wanted the breakdown of all costs and the info for the places I had reserved.
They called last night, and even though they haven't been to the place, tried the food, or even talked the people even on the phone, they apparently think the caterer I picked out is crap. And apparently no buffet style can be okay, it can only be good if it's a sit down dinner. I was very upset. This is a little family run thing and they're out in the boonies, but Dan and I liked the food we tried, they were very personable, and we're both happy with it.
We had no idea about what kind of financial help we would get, and I went making my plans assuming we might have to do it all ourselves. We liked this place, and we could afford it. Everywhere else starts at $10 a plate more.... If they want to look and they find something that's "not crap" to them, they can drive up here to meet with them, make all the arrangments themselves, and pay the difference between that and the place we picked.
They other fun thing we've had is that apparently everyone thought with us both only getting 2 weeks off a year that we were going to wait 2 days after our wedding to leave on our honeymoon. Umm... no! If it were up to me, we'd leave from the reception to the airport and be on our merry way. But for my brother's wedding they had a brunch thing and get together at her parent's house the day after. So my mom wants us all to go to my brother and his wife's house and do the same thing. Those two I guess didn't leave until the Monday after and they were there until 7 or 8 pm on Sunday...
So our flight got changed to later in the evening on Sunday to where we'd miss our dinner reservation. The only other option is at 2:20. I talked to my mom and she was obviously not pleased by that or even that we're leaving Sunday, so I guess we're sticking with the evening flight.
But honestly, I feel like the reception caterer thing is about showing up my brother's wife's mom for my mom and I feel like the shin dig on Sunday is more about showing off my brother and his wife's new house than about being nice to us. Isn't this our day? Isn't this supposed to be about us and shouldn't it be more about our wishes for how it should be done?
I swear to God if they cancel or change anything without asking first we're eloping.
When I could have REALLY used help about 6 months ago, no one was there to help. We already put our wedding off when we would have liked April 18th, but we apparently couldn't have it within one year of my brother's wedding. I mean, I guess if my parents really wanted to help, I could understand with saving up and all, it costs more than a pretty penny. Anyway though, even though I didn't know how much we'd have and all, I went out on a limb and reserved some things and places hoping it would work and could happen this summer.
So they had a shower/party for us in Birmingham last Saturday. Sunday my parents came over to his Dad and step mom's for brunch and my parents wanted the breakdown of all costs and the info for the places I had reserved.
They called last night, and even though they haven't been to the place, tried the food, or even talked the people even on the phone, they apparently think the caterer I picked out is crap. And apparently no buffet style can be okay, it can only be good if it's a sit down dinner. I was very upset. This is a little family run thing and they're out in the boonies, but Dan and I liked the food we tried, they were very personable, and we're both happy with it.
We had no idea about what kind of financial help we would get, and I went making my plans assuming we might have to do it all ourselves. We liked this place, and we could afford it. Everywhere else starts at $10 a plate more.... If they want to look and they find something that's "not crap" to them, they can drive up here to meet with them, make all the arrangments themselves, and pay the difference between that and the place we picked.
They other fun thing we've had is that apparently everyone thought with us both only getting 2 weeks off a year that we were going to wait 2 days after our wedding to leave on our honeymoon. Umm... no! If it were up to me, we'd leave from the reception to the airport and be on our merry way. But for my brother's wedding they had a brunch thing and get together at her parent's house the day after. So my mom wants us all to go to my brother and his wife's house and do the same thing. Those two I guess didn't leave until the Monday after and they were there until 7 or 8 pm on Sunday...
So our flight got changed to later in the evening on Sunday to where we'd miss our dinner reservation. The only other option is at 2:20. I talked to my mom and she was obviously not pleased by that or even that we're leaving Sunday, so I guess we're sticking with the evening flight.
But honestly, I feel like the reception caterer thing is about showing up my brother's wife's mom for my mom and I feel like the shin dig on Sunday is more about showing off my brother and his wife's new house than about being nice to us. Isn't this our day? Isn't this supposed to be about us and shouldn't it be more about our wishes for how it should be done?
I swear to God if they cancel or change anything without asking first we're eloping.