Facebook was pretty much dead to me as soon as my extended family started popping up on there. Now that my in-laws are on it, I'm not sure if I'll ever update again. This is mostly driven by my uncle harassing me at multiple family gatherings because we didn't ask him to look at our A/C unit, even though Mike was the one who casually mentioned that it was broken on facebook. Also, my SIL has posted multiple nasty comments on innocuous facebook updates and harassed Mike (very rudely) to post pictures of the inside of our house, something I would prefer not to be on facebook. It has gotten to the point where I feel like a facebook update from me has to be so censored to keep people from jumping on me, I might as well not even bother.
Also, people seem to think that posting messages on my husband's facebook account counts as communication with "us," whereas I don't think it counts as communication at all, at least not for family and close friends. The only thing I really use facebook for now is a substitute for email if I don't have someone's address. Even then, not so much.
I prefer twitter and blogging for chatting with people who have the same interests as me, but whom I don't know IRL. That's totally a personal preference, however, driven largely by increased anonymity, greater ease in finding people to follow, and diversity and customization of information available (ie twitter can tell me when ski resorts are holding specials, information about local festivals and events, and the thoughts of my fellow fanatics on the latest Dr. Who episode, without also telling me what my FIL had for lunch).
Sidenote: I don't think that people comment less on newsy type posts because they are uninterested or ignorant; I think that most people just don't have the ability to tune into NPR or other news venues during the day so they might not be as up-to-date as you are.
um... what was my point? Oh yes, if you retreat to facebook-only, we are going to have to communicate in another way! We should probably be doing that anyway. The fact that I'm bad at keeping in touch via email/phone probably makes my facebook-related objections moot, but I still don't like it.
Is there a way to export your photos onto another site like flickr or photobucket? Maybe there is some sort of tool somewhere.
I'm definitely going to keep using LJ! I just don't know that the features offered for the paid account are necessarily worth the money to me anymore. The photo storage is really all I use, and there are tons of free services out there for hosting pictures.
I don't know that I want to go back and re-link all my posts with pictures, though! So I will probably just delete them - which isn't a bad thing, necessarily, since I usually go through and prune my pictures every couple of years anyway. I really, really don't need to have pictures from a couple of years ago on the Internet - I'd rather not look at them at all, let alone have them crop up online!!!
I don't know - I do like the idea that I can keep up, however superficially, with people I know in real life via Facebook. Without it, I never would've known that Sam Davidson got engaged, or that we actually have a lot in common now, for example. So I guess I shouldn't complain about the interaction on Facebook, since I know full well how FB isn't a substitute for actually keeping in touch.
I guess I'm lucky that my non-in-laws are cool and don't really use FB all that often :) Now if my mom got on there, that would be a different story!
I really hate pictures of me from the last couple of years, especially since I've lost some weight now (not enough, though!). I really dislike the photos of me from my cousin's wedding. It didn't help that her photographer totally sucked at taking flattering ones.
I pretty much hate any picture of me from anyone else's wedding - no offense! It's just one of those things, you know? I usually end up wearing something I don't think is flattering or "me" and there end up being TONS of spontaneous photos where my mouth is hanging open or whatever. Spontaneous photos can be cute and fun, but maybe ask before putting them out there for everybody to see?!!
I'm not sure if I saw the ones from your cousin's wedding. But I really liked your outfit for Brad & Jen's wedding! I think you looked really cute, even if you had to put everything on last minute in the car ride over there! :P
I hate photo-tagging on facebook for this reason. Pictures that other people take that have me in them should not be able to be added to my profile by others. All photos linked to my name should be approved by me!
For B&J's wedding, I got to pick my own outfit (and I wasn't as unhappy with my appearance back then). Plus, I got to wear a cowboy hat. Win. For Jackie's wedding, I was a BM, and her taste in dresses is not the same as mine at all, so our BM dresses weren't that flattering on me.
As a bride though, I know that it's hard to please everyone, even though I did lots of research and let you guys pick your own styles.
AGREED. I understand people wanting to have all kinds of pictures on their FB, but I don't like not knowing exactly what their privacy settings are or when FB is just going to randomly change the privacy controls so all the untagging you do ends up moot anyway. It's a little different here or on your own blog because you can have at least a semblance of anonymity, whereas on FB, it's your own name.
Although, Ben has been able to take off his last name but I never have. I'm curious about that! He is just Ben C., but it never let me be Mel L. Hmm.
I'm probably just the most terrible person to think about wedding dresses though, so I sympathize with brides :P I'll never feel comfortable in a dress, ever. Period. So, it doesn't really matter how much the bride tries, though their efforts are appreciated!
Facebook was pretty much dead to me as soon as my extended family started popping up on there. Now that my in-laws are on it, I'm not sure if I'll ever update again. This is mostly driven by my uncle harassing me at multiple family gatherings because we didn't ask him to look at our A/C unit, even though Mike was the one who casually mentioned that it was broken on facebook. Also, my SIL has posted multiple nasty comments on innocuous facebook updates and harassed Mike (very rudely) to post pictures of the inside of our house, something I would prefer not to be on facebook. It has gotten to the point where I feel like a facebook update from me has to be so censored to keep people from jumping on me, I might as well not even bother.
Also, people seem to think that posting messages on my husband's facebook account counts as communication with "us," whereas I don't think it counts as communication at all, at least not for family and close friends. The only thing I really use facebook for now is a substitute for email if I don't have someone's address. Even then, not so much.
I prefer twitter and blogging for chatting with people who have the same interests as me, but whom I don't know IRL. That's totally a personal preference, however, driven largely by increased anonymity, greater ease in finding people to follow, and diversity and customization of information available (ie twitter can tell me when ski resorts are holding specials, information about local festivals and events, and the thoughts of my fellow fanatics on the latest Dr. Who episode, without also telling me what my FIL had for lunch).
Sidenote: I don't think that people comment less on newsy type posts because they are uninterested or ignorant; I think that most people just don't have the ability to tune into NPR or other news venues during the day so they might not be as up-to-date as you are.
um... what was my point? Oh yes, if you retreat to facebook-only, we are going to have to communicate in another way! We should probably be doing that anyway. The fact that I'm bad at keeping in touch via email/phone probably makes my facebook-related objections moot, but I still don't like it.
Is there a way to export your photos onto another site like flickr or photobucket? Maybe there is some sort of tool somewhere.
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I don't know that I want to go back and re-link all my posts with pictures, though! So I will probably just delete them - which isn't a bad thing, necessarily, since I usually go through and prune my pictures every couple of years anyway. I really, really don't need to have pictures from a couple of years ago on the Internet - I'd rather not look at them at all, let alone have them crop up online!!!
I don't know - I do like the idea that I can keep up, however superficially, with people I know in real life via Facebook. Without it, I never would've known that Sam Davidson got engaged, or that we actually have a lot in common now, for example. So I guess I shouldn't complain about the interaction on Facebook, since I know full well how FB isn't a substitute for actually keeping in touch.
I guess I'm lucky that my non-in-laws are cool and don't really use FB all that often :) Now if my mom got on there, that would be a different story!
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I'm not sure if I saw the ones from your cousin's wedding. But I really liked your outfit for Brad & Jen's wedding! I think you looked really cute, even if you had to put everything on last minute in the car ride over there! :P
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For B&J's wedding, I got to pick my own outfit (and I wasn't as unhappy with my appearance back then). Plus, I got to wear a cowboy hat. Win. For Jackie's wedding, I was a BM, and her taste in dresses is not the same as mine at all, so our BM dresses weren't that flattering on me.
As a bride though, I know that it's hard to please everyone, even though I did lots of research and let you guys pick your own styles.
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Although, Ben has been able to take off his last name but I never have. I'm curious about that! He is just Ben C., but it never let me be Mel L. Hmm.
I'm probably just the most terrible person to think about wedding dresses though, so I sympathize with brides :P I'll never feel comfortable in a dress, ever. Period. So, it doesn't really matter how much the bride tries, though their efforts are appreciated!
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