The Dementia Chronicles: Legalities
Oish.
So I read through the documentation from the court that my attorney linked me to. And followed instructions. So now I am faced with having to take Mom's checkbook away from her because this last weekend I stopped by the bank and put a copy of the guardian/conservator's letter on file (as instructed by court documentation - specifically within 30 days). Yeah. So legally Mom cannot get money from her own bank account and I must come up with ways that she understands to allow her to spend (get things at store etc) with me 2.5 hours away where the checkbook will now reside.
I have no qualms about sneaking the checks and checkbook away from her. Since I have to talk her through the whole check stuff at the grocery store each week it is probably time. It just hurts like heck to have to give your own mom an allowance.
And yes, this is another push in the direction of putting mom someplace. To those who keep asking - I'll get to it. On my time frame. Preferablly without losing my mind during a critical time of the year at work. The joy - if you will - of winter is that it more or less isolates (I know I know I hate it) Mom at home during the cold weather. My ongoing theory is that the more I isolate her, the more likely she is to not fight when it comes time to move her. That or I'll need an army of friends/family to help me with that move (And though I loathe asking for help - on this front I will!).
One thing I have noted lately is people in Eudora - like at the bank - telling me 'well we noticed...' By the way the folks at the bank have been awesome.
So I read through the documentation from the court that my attorney linked me to. And followed instructions. So now I am faced with having to take Mom's checkbook away from her because this last weekend I stopped by the bank and put a copy of the guardian/conservator's letter on file (as instructed by court documentation - specifically within 30 days). Yeah. So legally Mom cannot get money from her own bank account and I must come up with ways that she understands to allow her to spend (get things at store etc) with me 2.5 hours away where the checkbook will now reside.
I have no qualms about sneaking the checks and checkbook away from her. Since I have to talk her through the whole check stuff at the grocery store each week it is probably time. It just hurts like heck to have to give your own mom an allowance.
And yes, this is another push in the direction of putting mom someplace. To those who keep asking - I'll get to it. On my time frame. Preferablly without losing my mind during a critical time of the year at work. The joy - if you will - of winter is that it more or less isolates (I know I know I hate it) Mom at home during the cold weather. My ongoing theory is that the more I isolate her, the more likely she is to not fight when it comes time to move her. That or I'll need an army of friends/family to help me with that move (And though I loathe asking for help - on this front I will!).
One thing I have noted lately is people in Eudora - like at the bank - telling me 'well we noticed...' By the way the folks at the bank have been awesome.