My Christmas:

[clonechild]

So apparently I lost weight? Not much - about two kilo but still. I wasn't actually planning on losing any, I'm perfectly happy with my weight. Like, maybe if some of the fat in my ass and thighs would be so kind as to migrate over to my boobs I would like that very much, even though I might lose being able to sleep on my stomach. Dilemma, dilemma

Comments

[zetsuboubilly]

I understand that you feel mad with a comment like that, but I do think you will have to keep coming out... Its hard to understand for people, and that really sucks for you... I also think people can change, and the possibility might exist that you will fall in love in the future, even when you think it is impossible right now. Maybe your mother thinks so, or it was simply a joke.
Nobody knows exactly what you are feeling, what it is like, except for the people who also have those feelings. I dont think you should blame anyone for asking, because this is very complex for people to understand.

[clonechild]

Het is niet zozeer dat mensen het vragen dat het probleem is, want dat kan ik begrijpen. Het is meer het constante 'oh, wacht maar tot je de juiste man tegenkomt': dit is 1) beledigend, 2) heteronormatief en 3) laat zien dat ze niet geluisterd hebben. Het is... Nou ja. Als ik uit de kast was gekomen als lesbiënne had niemand durven zeggen dat ik maar moest wachten op de juiste man.