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Adam and I had our first almost-fight today. I will tell you about it.
Two weeks ago he invited me to a pool party/BBQ at his parents house for his dad and brothers birthday and I told him I'd think about it (making sure that he knew that pretty much meant no.) Today he asked me again if I was sure I didn't want to go with him and I said yes, I was sure. Later on he sent me a text message saying that he was having a lot of fun and wished I would just get over being such a baby and come hang out with him, and also that he would "go out of his way to make me feel comfortable." So I sent him a message saying I would but to give me an hour or so.
I accidentally fell asleep. Two hours later I woke up and made my way over to where he was. After 15 minutes of being nervous and sitting in my car in their drive-way Adam's friend Amos pulled up so I couldn't postpone it any longer. Anyway, I got there and the first words out of his mouth were "I'm so sorry, I'm an idiot." At first I was puzzled as to why he was saying that but as he started to walk around stumbling I quickly got the gist. He was hammered.
My first thought was that he had invited me over, promised to make me feel comfortable knowing how handicapped I can be, and proceeded to get inebriated. Obviously I was aggravated but I was mostly shocked. I didn't think that was something he'd do.
We took a long walk and talked a little. He mostly said things like "I'd fire me if I were you." And "I understand if you don't like me anymore." Things like that don't go very far with me. I was way too busy being annoyed to make him feel comfortable. We never argued but we were both very aware of the awkwardness. I felt like I should have been mad, but didn't want to, and he felt like crap and was handling it badly. We talked and I learned that he was drunk long before I agreed to come over. Never the less, eventually I got to the point where I was content on taking everything he said offensively so I said goodbye. I felt like we had just had the biggest argument ever. It was pretty cold on both sides.
I attempted sleep but I was too unsettled. I needed closure. After two hours I realized that I was going to have one miserable night ahead of me unless I did something about it so I grew some balls and went back to his parents house. His car was still there....I didn't stop. I cruised around town for about 5 minutes and entertained the idea of going back home. I quickly changed my mind as I would then feel like a desperate stalker.
I went into the back yard and his family was out there having a good time and I pretty much instantly wanted to vomit. I don't know why I get so uncomfortable :( His mom was very nice, and Adam was exactly as I expected. Passed out. She took me to to him and said that they had been trying to wake him up for the past 30 minutes and that he wouldn't even acknowledge them. His mom said "Krista's here" and he jumped up without flinching. I was a little tickled about that.
We kissed and made up although we never actually fought. I am so glad I went back. Tonight would have been absolutely miserable thinking that he and I might not be okay. Especially since I wasn't mad and neither was he. I was uncomfortable and irritated and he was too drunk to keep from putting his foot in his mouth.
Two weeks ago he invited me to a pool party/BBQ at his parents house for his dad and brothers birthday and I told him I'd think about it (making sure that he knew that pretty much meant no.) Today he asked me again if I was sure I didn't want to go with him and I said yes, I was sure. Later on he sent me a text message saying that he was having a lot of fun and wished I would just get over being such a baby and come hang out with him, and also that he would "go out of his way to make me feel comfortable." So I sent him a message saying I would but to give me an hour or so.
I accidentally fell asleep. Two hours later I woke up and made my way over to where he was. After 15 minutes of being nervous and sitting in my car in their drive-way Adam's friend Amos pulled up so I couldn't postpone it any longer. Anyway, I got there and the first words out of his mouth were "I'm so sorry, I'm an idiot." At first I was puzzled as to why he was saying that but as he started to walk around stumbling I quickly got the gist. He was hammered.
My first thought was that he had invited me over, promised to make me feel comfortable knowing how handicapped I can be, and proceeded to get inebriated. Obviously I was aggravated but I was mostly shocked. I didn't think that was something he'd do.
We took a long walk and talked a little. He mostly said things like "I'd fire me if I were you." And "I understand if you don't like me anymore." Things like that don't go very far with me. I was way too busy being annoyed to make him feel comfortable. We never argued but we were both very aware of the awkwardness. I felt like I should have been mad, but didn't want to, and he felt like crap and was handling it badly. We talked and I learned that he was drunk long before I agreed to come over. Never the less, eventually I got to the point where I was content on taking everything he said offensively so I said goodbye. I felt like we had just had the biggest argument ever. It was pretty cold on both sides.
I attempted sleep but I was too unsettled. I needed closure. After two hours I realized that I was going to have one miserable night ahead of me unless I did something about it so I grew some balls and went back to his parents house. His car was still there....I didn't stop. I cruised around town for about 5 minutes and entertained the idea of going back home. I quickly changed my mind as I would then feel like a desperate stalker.
I went into the back yard and his family was out there having a good time and I pretty much instantly wanted to vomit. I don't know why I get so uncomfortable :( His mom was very nice, and Adam was exactly as I expected. Passed out. She took me to to him and said that they had been trying to wake him up for the past 30 minutes and that he wouldn't even acknowledge them. His mom said "Krista's here" and he jumped up without flinching. I was a little tickled about that.
We kissed and made up although we never actually fought. I am so glad I went back. Tonight would have been absolutely miserable thinking that he and I might not be okay. Especially since I wasn't mad and neither was he. I was uncomfortable and irritated and he was too drunk to keep from putting his foot in his mouth.