Question
First of all, new Secret Life back thataway.
Second of all, I ended up adding/revising a bit on the Michael Jackson entry (you can skip down to "He was formally accused"), because I found out that something that had greatly shaped my opinion of that whole element wasn't true. And I wanted to expand just a touch on why that particular issue is such a problem for me. I don't think of it as backpedaling--it's actually a thornier issue to me than it was before, because I'm less sure now. But I just don't feel like I can say, "People couldn't have possibly been hurt because we want to like this man." But I don't have anything solid--outside of what was presented in court, which was then deemed insufficient to convict--to say positively that people were hurt. But I can't say they weren't either, etc., etc., around and around in circles we go. And that was the whole point of the entry in the first place, that there are all these puzzle pieces I can't make fit together, and I can't reconcile them into a whole. I don't think any of us can.
Third--I have no way to segue from something Profound and Philosophical, so this is necessarily going to sound frivolous and selfish. But: my hair is a wreck. It's brittle and bone-dry, which is making it tangle at the ends, which in turn is making it break off. I know that there's nothing really to fix that except to get the split ends lopped off, but I'd like to try to save the rest of my hair. And also, I'm afraid to go back and see my stylist because I know she'll chop off half of it, and it'll be so damaged I won't be able to argue. So I'd like to get some deep conditioning in before I try to get a trim. The problem is that my hair is naturally very fine and limp (not "thin" exactly--there's plenty of it), which means I have some wave put in about twice a year some to give it any body at all (read: my dirty secret, the Dread Word Perm).
So here's my actual question(s): please, please tell me you know of some kind of really good deep conditioning mask or treatment. The less expensive the better, and if can be made from common kitchen/produce section items, fantastic. Also, I generally use Pantene shampoo and conditioner, which I like, but which my stylist told me is full of protein, which can further dry out your hair--so if you know of something that's good for dry/processed hair (even though "hydrating curls" is the Pantene formula I already use), let me know.
Second of all, I ended up adding/revising a bit on the Michael Jackson entry (you can skip down to "He was formally accused"), because I found out that something that had greatly shaped my opinion of that whole element wasn't true. And I wanted to expand just a touch on why that particular issue is such a problem for me. I don't think of it as backpedaling--it's actually a thornier issue to me than it was before, because I'm less sure now. But I just don't feel like I can say, "People couldn't have possibly been hurt because we want to like this man." But I don't have anything solid--outside of what was presented in court, which was then deemed insufficient to convict--to say positively that people were hurt. But I can't say they weren't either, etc., etc., around and around in circles we go. And that was the whole point of the entry in the first place, that there are all these puzzle pieces I can't make fit together, and I can't reconcile them into a whole. I don't think any of us can.
Third--I have no way to segue from something Profound and Philosophical, so this is necessarily going to sound frivolous and selfish. But: my hair is a wreck. It's brittle and bone-dry, which is making it tangle at the ends, which in turn is making it break off. I know that there's nothing really to fix that except to get the split ends lopped off, but I'd like to try to save the rest of my hair. And also, I'm afraid to go back and see my stylist because I know she'll chop off half of it, and it'll be so damaged I won't be able to argue. So I'd like to get some deep conditioning in before I try to get a trim. The problem is that my hair is naturally very fine and limp (not "thin" exactly--there's plenty of it), which means I have some wave put in about twice a year some to give it any body at all (read: my dirty secret, the Dread Word Perm).
So here's my actual question(s): please, please tell me you know of some kind of really good deep conditioning mask or treatment. The less expensive the better, and if can be made from common kitchen/produce section items, fantastic. Also, I generally use Pantene shampoo and conditioner, which I like, but which my stylist told me is full of protein, which can further dry out your hair--so if you know of something that's good for dry/processed hair (even though "hydrating curls" is the Pantene formula I already use), let me know.