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[clefairyclare]

Well, life

Now, you know how I always like to talk about how I wonder why people are friends? i decided that I tend to think it's for one of two reasons:

a) insecurity
b) selfishness

I don't think it's healthy that I think this, I want to not to think this. I do though.

rubbish

Comments

[dancingpuppet]

Interesting.

I think you're definitely right to some extent but this can't really be helped, insecurity and selfishness are two of the main things that define human nature.

But I don't think you can narrow it down to just one or two reasons, I think it must be more complicated than that. I hope so anyway.

Other potential reasons:

3) Curiosity. Maybe you could link that to selfishness but then again anything could be linked to selfishness. Even insecurity.

Personally curiosity is probably the main reason why I talk to people enough for them to become my friends: if they're interesting enough (according to my personal criteria) I'll definitely start caring about them and I'll want to spend some time with them. Not because I need them but because I feel we might be able to share something, be creative to a certain extent (note that creative isn't about creating anything special or positive or negative in my definition, it's just about creating something, anything, and it's obviously not limited to material things).

I'm pretty sure curiosity is the main thing that drives us introverted people and I'd rule out selfishness and insecurity because personally I don't think I need friends, my own world is rich enough tbh, I just happen to like some people enough to think that spending time with them wouldn't be a total waste of my life.

4) Humanity. As in, people with humanists values tend to have faith in humanity and think sharing things with other people might improve everyone's life. You might want to link that with insecurity or selfishness but I think that would be very cynical to do so. And I don't have anything against cynicism but it is a bit over the top sometime, personally I do have faith in some people, even in some of these people that have proved they weren't really reliable or trustworthy. And I do have faith in Redemption. I guess you could blame my humanist+catholic upbringing though.

There must be other reasons, might add some more to that list later.

[clefairyclare]

curiosity is a reason I hadn't thought of