There is so much crap to talk about....
I don't even know where to begin...
So lets see, in the past month, I went to Reuben and Kerianna's wedding, I joined a Tuesday night dinner group with some new/old friends, I drank a shit ton of beer, I bought rock band, I had sex with a chick, I rearranged my living room, I discovered an awesome iPhone app called Words with Friends, I came out of the closet, I gave blood today, I visited Doug and Crystal in Charlotte, I went to a few parties, I learned how to play Slow-Mo Ninja and I'm halfway done with the West Wing.
So yeah, a busy month. Most of you pretty much know about everything I posted above...but to those who didn't...surprise! I know, I know, I buried the lead. So I'll go ahead and get the cliche questions out of the way. Oh - and by the way - I'm keeping this off Facebook - yes my friends know, yes my family knows - but I'd appreciate being mum about this. I'm not too keen about high school people knowing and I sure as shit don't want my co-workers to know.
How long have you known you were gay:
~Before I knew what the word "gay" meant. I'd say I first realized the attraction was there in 3rd or 4th grade.
Why did you wait so long to come out?
~I have no idea - I knew I would get support from all my friends and family - but I didn't want to be gay. I wanted to be straight, turns out you can't just will your life another way. I tried for a while, trust me. Also I got pretty good at lying.
Why now, then?
~Well after I had sex I had to come to a decision. This could be my life, I could get married to a woman, have children, house in the suburbs, everything I thought I wanted - then turn 50 and have a nervous breakdown and leave my family and feel like I'd wasted my life. Or, I could finally accept who I was and start the first real chapter in my life. I went with the latter. Plus me pretending to be straight had always been a victimless crime, but the second I had sex with a woman, there was someone who could be hurt by it. So I came out a week later. She was still hurt by it - but not as much as she would've been had I waited.
Have you ever done anything with a guy? (What a rude question mind your own business!)
~Kidding, nope, before I came out I didn't even give a guy a second look - I didn't want anyone to know I was gay, not even gay men.
(now for the usual follow-up to that one)How did you know you were gay if I've never even been with a man?
~There are plenty of responses for that. Have you ever wanted to be with a man/woman to see if you were gay? If you did, you probably are. Another answer is "How do you know you're straight?" Then there's just the plain ole, "if you don't know, I can't explain it to you..."
How did your parents take it?
~I'm very fortunate to say I have the best parents in the world, and I'll challenge anyone who says otherwise to a fight to the tap out. I got the questions out of the way and the only thing they were upset about was I'd lived 28 years with a secret I kept to myself that made me progressively unhappier as I got older. They're happy that I can finally live a happy life now.
I think those were the main questions I got from people I came out to so far. No, don't call me girlfriend, no don't invite me to "ladies night out," and no I don't like musicals...oh wait, yeah, yeah I do. I'm still me, nothing about my personality has ever been a lie, just some of the stuff I've said. Things like "Oh damn...what I'd do to her," and "Mmm, baby got it goin' on." Yeah I learned my pick-up lines watching rap videos...don't judge me.
Sooooo, I suppose that's it for now. The past three weeks have been interesting. I came out to Ray on Tuesday, and by that Friday pretty much everyone I see on a regular basis and my family knew - I wanted to fast-track that shit. Since I came out I've gone out a ton - I've been very social - to the detriment of my wallet.
The support I've gotten was there, and I seriously want to thank everyone I've told so far for being so ridiculously awesome about it - you made me love my life...something I haven't done in a long, long time.
So lets see, in the past month, I went to Reuben and Kerianna's wedding, I joined a Tuesday night dinner group with some new/old friends, I drank a shit ton of beer, I bought rock band, I had sex with a chick, I rearranged my living room, I discovered an awesome iPhone app called Words with Friends, I came out of the closet, I gave blood today, I visited Doug and Crystal in Charlotte, I went to a few parties, I learned how to play Slow-Mo Ninja and I'm halfway done with the West Wing.
So yeah, a busy month. Most of you pretty much know about everything I posted above...but to those who didn't...surprise! I know, I know, I buried the lead. So I'll go ahead and get the cliche questions out of the way. Oh - and by the way - I'm keeping this off Facebook - yes my friends know, yes my family knows - but I'd appreciate being mum about this. I'm not too keen about high school people knowing and I sure as shit don't want my co-workers to know.
How long have you known you were gay:
~Before I knew what the word "gay" meant. I'd say I first realized the attraction was there in 3rd or 4th grade.
Why did you wait so long to come out?
~I have no idea - I knew I would get support from all my friends and family - but I didn't want to be gay. I wanted to be straight, turns out you can't just will your life another way. I tried for a while, trust me. Also I got pretty good at lying.
Why now, then?
~Well after I had sex I had to come to a decision. This could be my life, I could get married to a woman, have children, house in the suburbs, everything I thought I wanted - then turn 50 and have a nervous breakdown and leave my family and feel like I'd wasted my life. Or, I could finally accept who I was and start the first real chapter in my life. I went with the latter. Plus me pretending to be straight had always been a victimless crime, but the second I had sex with a woman, there was someone who could be hurt by it. So I came out a week later. She was still hurt by it - but not as much as she would've been had I waited.
Have you ever done anything with a guy? (What a rude question mind your own business!)
~Kidding, nope, before I came out I didn't even give a guy a second look - I didn't want anyone to know I was gay, not even gay men.
(now for the usual follow-up to that one)How did you know you were gay if I've never even been with a man?
~There are plenty of responses for that. Have you ever wanted to be with a man/woman to see if you were gay? If you did, you probably are. Another answer is "How do you know you're straight?" Then there's just the plain ole, "if you don't know, I can't explain it to you..."
How did your parents take it?
~I'm very fortunate to say I have the best parents in the world, and I'll challenge anyone who says otherwise to a fight to the tap out. I got the questions out of the way and the only thing they were upset about was I'd lived 28 years with a secret I kept to myself that made me progressively unhappier as I got older. They're happy that I can finally live a happy life now.
I think those were the main questions I got from people I came out to so far. No, don't call me girlfriend, no don't invite me to "ladies night out," and no I don't like musicals...oh wait, yeah, yeah I do. I'm still me, nothing about my personality has ever been a lie, just some of the stuff I've said. Things like "Oh damn...what I'd do to her," and "Mmm, baby got it goin' on." Yeah I learned my pick-up lines watching rap videos...don't judge me.
Sooooo, I suppose that's it for now. The past three weeks have been interesting. I came out to Ray on Tuesday, and by that Friday pretty much everyone I see on a regular basis and my family knew - I wanted to fast-track that shit. Since I came out I've gone out a ton - I've been very social - to the detriment of my wallet.
The support I've gotten was there, and I seriously want to thank everyone I've told so far for being so ridiculously awesome about it - you made me love my life...something I haven't done in a long, long time.