On Vox: 20, 30, 40...Gold
So I did end up going to lunch with the DJ guy and ended up having a great time! We talked about music, politics, and his other job that has to do a bit with the medical field. It was fun to be able to hang out with a guy and finally putting all my "what if he likes me and I don't like him" feelings to the side. I've been too scared in the past to allow myself to be friends with a guy based on that issue so many times. As a matter of fact, I've only had one guy that I allowed myself to be like that with and it was only because of a long time of being good friends that I finally started to hang out with him without other people around. So yeah...that's a new goal I'm trying to incorporate into my life.
Going out to lunch with an older guy got me really thinking about men in general and what attracts me to the older set. I always thought it was looks alone that had me liking Sean Connery, Harrison Ford, Gerard Butler, etc., and maybe in their cases it was only looks since I didn't know them in person. In real life however, I find it has to do more with the fact that most guys in their 40s+ have a different way of living, loving, and interacting with people. The 20+ year olds in the bar scene are out to get drunk, party, and get in a girl's pants. The 40+ year old guy is out to have conversation and enjoy people's company. Probably they wouldn't mind getting in a girl's pants, but it doesn't seem to be the forefront of their goal in going out. Am I wrong in this assumption? I know not all men fit in these categories but the ones I have experienced in bar land at least seem this way. Talking to the DJ about dancing and life was like a breath of fresh compared to the usual drone of most guys. I can't even recall a good conversation I've had at a bar with a guy that was younger. I'm not friends with a lot of guys in general, so it may be that 30 year olds are better at breaking into conversation outside of the weather. All this said, I do have some good guy friends who I don't feel are like what I'm describing. More like I'm narrowing it down to bar guys.
So any opinions on the matter?
Originally posted on classicnutmeg.vox.com