is there some rite that all females go through when they enter the hallowed reaches of rpi that render us simply "it"'s that merely happen to have 2 X chromosomes?
no, what i'm saying is the minute we females enter rpi, we are no longer female, despite the fact that rpi has been opened up to women, there is still the culture of there being no women at rpi. at all. those of us that are here might as well not be. at rpi there is the mind set that the only girls in troy are down in sage.
the category that is labeled as "the nice guys" all declare that they are never seen, never acknowledged. therefore, there are letters praising the fortitude of the nice guys, telling them to hang in there, that their time will come. what about us smart girls? we are the counterpart to the nice guys. we are seen as good friends, but non-datable. we get to hear our guy friends complain about their problems landing a girl, when there is a girl right in front of them that all they have to do is reach out.
there's a communication wall between the genders, we both want the other to come to us, but we are not willing to meet in the middle. until this meeting can happen, i see this frustration continuing, with building resentment on certainly the part of us females. we feel like we are bending over backwards to show that girls have more worth than simply to be an ornament for a guy, but the more intelligent we prove ourselves to be, the more degenderized we are in the eyes of the world.
I don't know who you hang out with that somehow doesn't see you as female. Believe you me, I never had that problem with any of the small number of girls I met when I was there, including you. Maybe I'm weird.
there's one group that i hang out with that also pulls members from sage. whenever we are meeting, and they are not around, there's a definite feeling from the guys that "there are no girls". its more than a feeling. the guys have been known to say that there are no girls in the group, simply because the sage girls are missing. when comments like this are said, us rpi women will and do respond with saying that we are hurt by this. but it still ends up leaving us with the feeling that we are overlooked as women. gahhhh it's tough dealing with people sometimes!
the category that is labeled as "the nice guys" all declare that they are never seen, never acknowledged. therefore, there are letters praising the fortitude of the nice guys, telling them to hang in there, that their time will come. what about us smart girls? we are the counterpart to the nice guys. we are seen as good friends, but non-datable. we get to hear our guy friends complain about their problems landing a girl, when there is a girl right in front of them that all they have to do is reach out.
there's a communication wall between the genders, we both want the other to come to us, but we are not willing to meet in the middle. until this meeting can happen, i see this frustration continuing, with building resentment on certainly the part of us females. we feel like we are bending over backwards to show that girls have more worth than simply to be an ornament for a guy, but the more intelligent we prove ourselves to be, the more degenderized we are in the eyes of the world.
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