A la Carrie Bradshaw!
So, despite the fact that I consider myself an activist, I have recently gotten hooked on that little MTV addiction called "Laguna Beach"
Let's skip over the part where we critize the show for its lack of brown skin (in its many beautful shades) and how it feeds into the destructive capitalist system by promoting people under 20 spending millions that they didn't work for, and how despite the fact that they're supposed to be students, they have never really been shown in school...ect, ect.
Let me divulge into writitng about that chick Jessica and her horrendous relationship with Jason. As a girl (a pretty cute one, I may add), I've faced a similar relationship. Maybe two but we won't get into that. The one that comes to mind first lasted only about a month and a half, and, like Jessica, it left me devastated, obsessed and wanting more.
This guy Jason is supposed to be the heart breaker of Laguna Beach right? He's good looking, athletic and is probably the only guy at their high school with that much facial hair. And Jessica is no Kristin. Jessica is portrayed as sensitive, vulnerable, needy, possessive and boring.
I would like to defend Jessica when I say that she's none of those things. The real issue here is that Jason brings out the worst in Jessica. There are certain guys, like Jason, who make girls feel like they can't get enough. It's not love, it's probably not even lust.
It's competition.
Even though he probably cheated, never called and treated her like shit, Jessica is content with having the label of girlfriend. She can call this hot guy her boyfriend and on those rare and precious ocassions, she can kiss him and hug him and hold his hand.
Man, this girl's self-esteem is lower than...well it's really low...
And the best part about it is: every girl has had her Jason. Maybe it was a lesser degree, maybe greater, but without a doubt every female will encounter their equivalent to the "relationship" that Jessica and Jason are facing in the paradisical Laguna Beach.
His name was Sergio. And although this is now irrelevant, I gotta say he was way hotter than Jason. Being the insecure chubby girl that I am or was (the insecure, not the chubby part), I felt that by having this hot boyfriend and keeping him would give me some sort of...status.
And it worked, for like 2 days. Then he stopped calling. He ignored me in the hallway of the 100 building at my high school and he didn't seem to want to go on dates anymore. One trip to the drive in with our friends cost me about 20 bucks and my dignity.
Whenever we would speak the conversations would be about why he didn't call, when was he going to call and when were we going to see each other, finally. Of course it was me asking all the questions, him proving no answers.
And everyday I'd wake up thinkin: I gotta break up with the guy. I can't keep doing this to myself.
And then I'd see him at school or the bus stop, (geez, what a loser, at least Jason has a car!) and I'd melt, literally. I couldn't think of anything else but wanting to be his girlfriend.
Conviniently, being his girlfriend concided with my senior PROM. He was to be my date and we were to dance and laugh and take pictures and look absolutely hot and sexy and maybe we could be sexy in private at the end of the night.
Well, two days before Prom after I had bought him his ticket and begged him with lots of tears to come to prom with me, he said no and that was that. NO.
And then his friend told me the reason: he had another girlfriend the whole time. THE WHOLE TIME.
And even after that, I still hung out with him a couple more times. And then, just a few months ago, he resurfaced and I went all stupid over his gorgeous looks.
Can you say masochistic??
That's just it. Jessica enjoys being treated like shit. I know it. I've been there. You'd rather be treated like shit than not be treated at all. After being ignored for what seems like forever by all the hot guys in the world, the fact that one, just one gives you the time of day is better than nothing. We settle for less. We settle for the random butterflies in the stomach and the sporadic kisses on the rare dates. And we get them everything: Valentine's day gifts and expensive jerseys on their birthdays that they will return to you all sweaty and gross. We find any way to make them fall in love with us when really, we're not even in love with them. And we never will be.
And that's the only comforting news in this whole ordeal. Relationships between Jessicas and Jasons will happen all the time. It's a comforting stable thing. But they will never ever survive.
Let's skip over the part where we critize the show for its lack of brown skin (in its many beautful shades) and how it feeds into the destructive capitalist system by promoting people under 20 spending millions that they didn't work for, and how despite the fact that they're supposed to be students, they have never really been shown in school...ect, ect.
Let me divulge into writitng about that chick Jessica and her horrendous relationship with Jason. As a girl (a pretty cute one, I may add), I've faced a similar relationship. Maybe two but we won't get into that. The one that comes to mind first lasted only about a month and a half, and, like Jessica, it left me devastated, obsessed and wanting more.
This guy Jason is supposed to be the heart breaker of Laguna Beach right? He's good looking, athletic and is probably the only guy at their high school with that much facial hair. And Jessica is no Kristin. Jessica is portrayed as sensitive, vulnerable, needy, possessive and boring.
I would like to defend Jessica when I say that she's none of those things. The real issue here is that Jason brings out the worst in Jessica. There are certain guys, like Jason, who make girls feel like they can't get enough. It's not love, it's probably not even lust.
It's competition.
Even though he probably cheated, never called and treated her like shit, Jessica is content with having the label of girlfriend. She can call this hot guy her boyfriend and on those rare and precious ocassions, she can kiss him and hug him and hold his hand.
Man, this girl's self-esteem is lower than...well it's really low...
And the best part about it is: every girl has had her Jason. Maybe it was a lesser degree, maybe greater, but without a doubt every female will encounter their equivalent to the "relationship" that Jessica and Jason are facing in the paradisical Laguna Beach.
His name was Sergio. And although this is now irrelevant, I gotta say he was way hotter than Jason. Being the insecure chubby girl that I am or was (the insecure, not the chubby part), I felt that by having this hot boyfriend and keeping him would give me some sort of...status.
And it worked, for like 2 days. Then he stopped calling. He ignored me in the hallway of the 100 building at my high school and he didn't seem to want to go on dates anymore. One trip to the drive in with our friends cost me about 20 bucks and my dignity.
Whenever we would speak the conversations would be about why he didn't call, when was he going to call and when were we going to see each other, finally. Of course it was me asking all the questions, him proving no answers.
And everyday I'd wake up thinkin: I gotta break up with the guy. I can't keep doing this to myself.
And then I'd see him at school or the bus stop, (geez, what a loser, at least Jason has a car!) and I'd melt, literally. I couldn't think of anything else but wanting to be his girlfriend.
Conviniently, being his girlfriend concided with my senior PROM. He was to be my date and we were to dance and laugh and take pictures and look absolutely hot and sexy and maybe we could be sexy in private at the end of the night.
Well, two days before Prom after I had bought him his ticket and begged him with lots of tears to come to prom with me, he said no and that was that. NO.
And then his friend told me the reason: he had another girlfriend the whole time. THE WHOLE TIME.
And even after that, I still hung out with him a couple more times. And then, just a few months ago, he resurfaced and I went all stupid over his gorgeous looks.
Can you say masochistic??
That's just it. Jessica enjoys being treated like shit. I know it. I've been there. You'd rather be treated like shit than not be treated at all. After being ignored for what seems like forever by all the hot guys in the world, the fact that one, just one gives you the time of day is better than nothing. We settle for less. We settle for the random butterflies in the stomach and the sporadic kisses on the rare dates. And we get them everything: Valentine's day gifts and expensive jerseys on their birthdays that they will return to you all sweaty and gross. We find any way to make them fall in love with us when really, we're not even in love with them. And we never will be.
And that's the only comforting news in this whole ordeal. Relationships between Jessicas and Jasons will happen all the time. It's a comforting stable thing. But they will never ever survive.