Jun 24, 2007 13:14
an awful lot.
mostly to ease communication. here are examples from today.
Man in coffee shops asks "What does it say on your arm?" referring to my tattoo.
i reply: "Its a long story"
what i intend to communicate: I don't want to tell you.
what I'm thinking: if i tell him what it is he wont understand, its complicated, and i have no interest in adding to his knowledge of myself.
desired effect: he asks no more questions and discontinues conversation with me: success
walking home to 'insufficiently dressed' female tourists in front of the famous pizza place on our street ask "excuse me?"
i slow down thinking they will probably ask for directions, which i might attempt to help them with. i see they are holding a camera. they continue to ask "could you take a picture of my friend and me?"
i reply: "im sorry, i dont have time." and keep walking.
what i intend to communicate: please do not be offended but i don't want to take your picture.
what im thinking: i detest doing things for women who get by in life by showing off flesh, they refuse to use their minds and thusly they shrivel inside. the act of taking their picture will be a waste of my time and some other more easily influenced human will likely do it for them. also i hate tourists... i don't know why but i do. On second glance i see that manipulative female smile, it says i can make men do whatever i want... i realize i hate these women.
after i reply, intending to show just the general respect towards the fact that they are human, i see them grotesquely upset that they could not get what they wanted from me, confirming my suspicions about their personality.
I lie every day, i think out of respect for myself.
as a personal rule i refuse to lie to anyone i care about. for everyone else i consider the lie in regards to its cause and effects. i ask my self if i could say "I lied to you because i don't really care about you." and i never lie needlessly.
I lie to Alix a lot though. here is an example:
Alix: "hey do you want to go to such and such a place and eat bla bla bla?"
me: "sure i love bla bla bla, i cant wait to go."
a moments pause...
me: "that was a lie."
Alix frowns at me.