This.
An open letter to privileged people who play devil’s advocate
"It is incredibly painful to feel that in order for you to care about my safety, I have to win this verbal contest you have constructed 'for fun'."
"It is physically and emotionally draining to be called upon to prove that these systems of power exist. For many of us, just struggling against them is enough - now you want us to break them down for you? Imagine having weights tied to your feet and a gag around your mouth, and then being asked to explain why you think you are at an unfair disadvantage. "
"It is incredibly painful to feel that in order for you to care about my safety, I have to win this verbal contest you have constructed 'for fun'."
"It is physically and emotionally draining to be called upon to prove that these systems of power exist. For many of us, just struggling against them is enough - now you want us to break them down for you? Imagine having weights tied to your feet and a gag around your mouth, and then being asked to explain why you think you are at an unfair disadvantage. "