Message from a Long-Lost Friend
A person from my past PMed me to explain something they did, long ago.
We'd been pretty good friends for some time, then one day totally out of the blue, for me, they broke off our friendship. It was just days after they'd (also out of the blue) told me they loved me, how meaningful our friendship was - then that. And not only this, they then asked me to fight for our friendship, and that they wanted that. When I asked questions, they didn't really reply. I was so worried for them. They wanted to spend time together, so I tried to do that, to just be with them and live with them not talking. That type of thing might be trauma .... Other times I tried to ask questions - and overall I just got hostility - till I ended up saying - give me some hint of what's going on, some sign, and got nothing, so - I'd had enough and stopped trying.
So now, not long ago they wrote me. That they were sorry. Explained there was some issue with their GF, but beyond that - they'd lied to get some stuff from me, relationship-wise. Wrote they'd lied to themselves and me for a long while when we were friends. That they had trouble acknowledging that and handling it, so then instead they took it out on me. That it truly had nothing to do with me, and that I was so baffled as a result of them lying, that it wasn't something possible to understand .
I'm not sure what to make of it, but I am glad to finally know what (probably) happened, to get some closure instead of keep wondering, I needed that still. I am glad they acknowledged that they did was cruel, some validation.... Maybe now when I see their name on FB - it seems like it would not feel bitter or sad, but more. Closed.
They asked for permission to sometimes 'like' my posts, and I agreed to maybe try it.... What does one say to a request like that ....
ETA: this is not the person from a few months ago .
We'd been pretty good friends for some time, then one day totally out of the blue, for me, they broke off our friendship. It was just days after they'd (also out of the blue) told me they loved me, how meaningful our friendship was - then that. And not only this, they then asked me to fight for our friendship, and that they wanted that. When I asked questions, they didn't really reply. I was so worried for them. They wanted to spend time together, so I tried to do that, to just be with them and live with them not talking. That type of thing might be trauma .... Other times I tried to ask questions - and overall I just got hostility - till I ended up saying - give me some hint of what's going on, some sign, and got nothing, so - I'd had enough and stopped trying.
So now, not long ago they wrote me. That they were sorry. Explained there was some issue with their GF, but beyond that - they'd lied to get some stuff from me, relationship-wise. Wrote they'd lied to themselves and me for a long while when we were friends. That they had trouble acknowledging that and handling it, so then instead they took it out on me. That it truly had nothing to do with me, and that I was so baffled as a result of them lying, that it wasn't something possible to understand .
I'm not sure what to make of it, but I am glad to finally know what (probably) happened, to get some closure instead of keep wondering, I needed that still. I am glad they acknowledged that they did was cruel, some validation.... Maybe now when I see their name on FB - it seems like it would not feel bitter or sad, but more. Closed.
They asked for permission to sometimes 'like' my posts, and I agreed to maybe try it.... What does one say to a request like that ....
ETA: this is not the person from a few months ago .