stop taking things so seriously! it's just a joke!
gosh, why do you have to be so sensitive about the way that people react to sexuality? it's not like they mean anything by it. when a guy says "that's hot" when you're close to a friend they're not trying to own both you and your relationship to females. they're not trying to defile lesbians. they're not trying to normalize a threat to their territory. we're, like, way past that. they're just expressing that they'd really like to see you in bed with another woman and be a voyeur, thus having a place in an experience that they have no right to.
or they're making a joke.
there are horrible things happening in the world and you choose to be upset about this? you choose to get mad and be personally offended about an offhand comment, or an on-hand one, if you know what I mean. ha ha. you choose to be personally defeated and let down? it's just going to happen again. how many times can you throw yourself a brick wall before you realize: that's the way it is and gosh, it's just not that big of a deal.
and isn't it flattering sort of? that he wants you? this is just the way men are! give them a break! women being close isn't friendship, it's a possible expression of sexuality! being affectionate has a lot of ulterior meanings. you want him to be attracted to you, don't you? it's worth sacrificing your friendships or at least your view of them, your power in them. and if you, heaven forbid, do have complications on a deep serious level with your sexuality? forget it. it's not yours to understand. you must be straight. this gay thing is just for his enjoyment. give it up.
but seriously, it's like so not a big deal. it was a comment. stop taking things so personally. it's getting ridiculous. and everyone thinks you're a crazy feminist. seriously. I'm getting worried about being seen with you.
or they're making a joke.
there are horrible things happening in the world and you choose to be upset about this? you choose to get mad and be personally offended about an offhand comment, or an on-hand one, if you know what I mean. ha ha. you choose to be personally defeated and let down? it's just going to happen again. how many times can you throw yourself a brick wall before you realize: that's the way it is and gosh, it's just not that big of a deal.
and isn't it flattering sort of? that he wants you? this is just the way men are! give them a break! women being close isn't friendship, it's a possible expression of sexuality! being affectionate has a lot of ulterior meanings. you want him to be attracted to you, don't you? it's worth sacrificing your friendships or at least your view of them, your power in them. and if you, heaven forbid, do have complications on a deep serious level with your sexuality? forget it. it's not yours to understand. you must be straight. this gay thing is just for his enjoyment. give it up.
but seriously, it's like so not a big deal. it was a comment. stop taking things so personally. it's getting ridiculous. and everyone thinks you're a crazy feminist. seriously. I'm getting worried about being seen with you.