Wedding stuff

[cinnamonphoenix]

I reread some of my previous entries and they sound awfully whiny to me.

....And this one will be no different. Heh heh. A girl's gotta vent somewhere.

Over the past few year, my mother and I have begun speaking less and less. Really this began because I was too busy to email her back everytime I got a email from her. But now I do have the time. And

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[pingouineverte]

First off, she is wrong and/or lying about the health care, car insurance, cell phone etc. Maybe your health care provider is different, but as long as I am still a student and single I get coverage, even if I don't live with my parents. So, just because you move out does not equal no health coverage. Just when you get married.

Second, I think the way you are handling things is pretty fair to your parents, to be honest. They don't deserve for you to listen to them, and you aren't doing anything wrong. Most couples, including all the ones I know (except Kari and Scott) lived together before they got married. As far as being judged about cutting them out of your life...I would say, go ahead and do it, to a degree. But do it slyly. Like you said, you rarely reply to emails, etc. So until you get married, just keep contact with them to take care of the important things. I know this is easy for me to say - I'm sure it really feels shitty to be essentially losing your parents. But maybe if you are clear about it, and especially after you're married and it is obvious they are out of your life, they might wake up and feel bad about it. As evil as your mom is, she may want to see her grandkids. They may want some help when they can't take care of themselves anymore, and realize it before it gets to that point. You never know. And you will have Dan's family to help you out and support you.

And, as far as those who you feel will judge you if you abandon your parents...I think many people know your mom is pretty nuts. My mom always says "something about her is just...not right." I think most people can see it, or feel it by interacting with her. Maybe she can maniuplate your other family members, but I'm sure people in Dan's family would be able to see through her or understand you. And you know all your friends, and probably most of their parents, can too.

But at this point, I don't think you should feel obligate to make an effort to communicate with them. They should be the ones who wake up and apologize to you.