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“I’m sorry. I was wrong." - Edward Cullen
EDWARD, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE NOW?
Although, this rather nicely illustrates my feelings about relationships. Love does not mean "never having to say you're sorry." Love means saying you're sorry when you do something wrong because you ARE sorry for hurting that person you love.
It all goes back to respect. You have to value a person, and show it. Awkwardly complimenting your significant other while suppressing their dreams and ambitions doesn't cut it. Nor does snogging and making jokes suffice. You have to know a person, and want to know - Harry never once asks Ginny a personal question, that I've seen thus far. Never wants to know anything about her. Whereas Edward, Edward interrogates Bella for a full day and he's not satisfied. He wants to know everything she's thinking, to understand her completely, and he doesn't just do it for show - he's genuinely interested. I have yet to see Harry show any genuine interest in Ginny, or any interest between Ron and Hermione. They never try to understand each other at all.
Love just has to be more. Love transcends the physical. It's deeply, passionately invested in another person. It's respectful. It's self-sacrificing. It's supporive, it's faithful. It believes and hopes and fears and it doesn't disappear when its object does; it's constantly on one's mind.
Obviously, JK Rowling has never felt it. Neither have I, for that matter, but I'm smart enough to recognize it when I see it.
EDWARD, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE NOW?
Although, this rather nicely illustrates my feelings about relationships. Love does not mean "never having to say you're sorry." Love means saying you're sorry when you do something wrong because you ARE sorry for hurting that person you love.
It all goes back to respect. You have to value a person, and show it. Awkwardly complimenting your significant other while suppressing their dreams and ambitions doesn't cut it. Nor does snogging and making jokes suffice. You have to know a person, and want to know - Harry never once asks Ginny a personal question, that I've seen thus far. Never wants to know anything about her. Whereas Edward, Edward interrogates Bella for a full day and he's not satisfied. He wants to know everything she's thinking, to understand her completely, and he doesn't just do it for show - he's genuinely interested. I have yet to see Harry show any genuine interest in Ginny, or any interest between Ron and Hermione. They never try to understand each other at all.
Love just has to be more. Love transcends the physical. It's deeply, passionately invested in another person. It's respectful. It's self-sacrificing. It's supporive, it's faithful. It believes and hopes and fears and it doesn't disappear when its object does; it's constantly on one's mind.
Obviously, JK Rowling has never felt it. Neither have I, for that matter, but I'm smart enough to recognize it when I see it.