I don't think they understand.....
I seriously don't think my friends are used to seeing me with anybody, and as far as Mike is concerned, he thinks they don't like him because he "took me away from them" and I'm not at their beckoned call anymore. I know they're happy for me and all, and they do like Mike, but I've always been the fun, single friend who came running whenever my friends needed company or an emergency night out at the bar. Now that I have my own relationship to put first, I don't do that anymore and I don't think they can handle it one bit!!! Even Irene, who is married with a family, always wants to get out of the house first chance she gets because of her wild little girls who fight all the time. She acutally cried to me the other night because her plans with Crystal got cancelled and she wanted to go out. Like I can just ditch my fiance on the spot and pick up and leave...
I do have one friend who flat out told me that she doesn't understand why he doesn't want me to go to the clubs, knowing that dancing was always something I liked to do. I told her we sometimes have to sacrifice things we did when we were single in order to make our relationships work. In addition to that, I know I've changed, in that I've settled down a lot, but I still like to get out and do stuff. I don't think calming the wild side down at 36 is a bad thing. These days I've become more of a daytime person. I'm pretty much done with bars unless Mike & I go sing karaoke. I've initially kissed DCS goodbye as well, since he despises clubs & won't set foot in one nor will he associate with anyone who uses any type of drug other than pot, and we mutually agreed that there's no need for us to go out without each other unelss it's a bachelor or bachelorette party. I don't see my single friends much anymore but it doesn't mean I don't still cherish the freindships. I guess my co-workers were right; once you become part of a couple you do drift away from your single friends. I love my memories, but I wouldn't trade my present or future for anything!!!
I do have one friend who flat out told me that she doesn't understand why he doesn't want me to go to the clubs, knowing that dancing was always something I liked to do. I told her we sometimes have to sacrifice things we did when we were single in order to make our relationships work. In addition to that, I know I've changed, in that I've settled down a lot, but I still like to get out and do stuff. I don't think calming the wild side down at 36 is a bad thing. These days I've become more of a daytime person. I'm pretty much done with bars unless Mike & I go sing karaoke. I've initially kissed DCS goodbye as well, since he despises clubs & won't set foot in one nor will he associate with anyone who uses any type of drug other than pot, and we mutually agreed that there's no need for us to go out without each other unelss it's a bachelor or bachelorette party. I don't see my single friends much anymore but it doesn't mean I don't still cherish the freindships. I guess my co-workers were right; once you become part of a couple you do drift away from your single friends. I love my memories, but I wouldn't trade my present or future for anything!!!