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When you are invited into a persons home, does that mean that permission can be assumed to go through their belongings, their cupboards, their medicine cabinets?
If a woman hands you her purse or a guy gives you his backpack, can it be assumed that it's ok to rilfe through it out of curiosity?
When someone lets you use his/her PC, does that give you the assumed approval to look through the files?
I had a long discussion with William(guy I met this last week) on Friday night about the fact that he had started to hack his way into the photo album I have online, and he'd looked up my Ebay account information. He said that he'd just started to do these things, but then stopped, realizing that it was wrong despite his great curiosity about me. I was upset. I was verbally upset, and made it clear- my cousin who was in the house at the time even said several times, "gee Shan..I think we've all got it now that it's wrong!" that doing that kind of thing is the same as going through someone's purse or something and that it upset me that he'd do something so... stalkerish. He apologised, and said that he'd never do anything like that again.
Tonight (Saturday) we were sitting around chatting about Ebay and the oddities you can find there, and I handed him my laptop while I did something else. On returning and snagging my laptop away in a playful manner, 'Mine! muahahaha', I plop back down and discover... Search for Files or Folders is open, with all the images I have on this thing displayed. (I have nothing noteworthy on this thing, FYI.. anything misconstruable is on my desktop which is currently mouldering away in agony in Germany)
Drama ensues as I start yelling about the discussion we'd had the previous night where I expounded on morals, ethics and how digging through peoples lives without permission is WRONG and that I have every right to be upset.
He doesn't think he did anything wrong because I handed him my laptop, thereby giving informal consent to paw through it at his leisure.
Pick a side, ladies & gents.
If a woman hands you her purse or a guy gives you his backpack, can it be assumed that it's ok to rilfe through it out of curiosity?
When someone lets you use his/her PC, does that give you the assumed approval to look through the files?
I had a long discussion with William(guy I met this last week) on Friday night about the fact that he had started to hack his way into the photo album I have online, and he'd looked up my Ebay account information. He said that he'd just started to do these things, but then stopped, realizing that it was wrong despite his great curiosity about me. I was upset. I was verbally upset, and made it clear- my cousin who was in the house at the time even said several times, "gee Shan..I think we've all got it now that it's wrong!" that doing that kind of thing is the same as going through someone's purse or something and that it upset me that he'd do something so... stalkerish. He apologised, and said that he'd never do anything like that again.
Tonight (Saturday) we were sitting around chatting about Ebay and the oddities you can find there, and I handed him my laptop while I did something else. On returning and snagging my laptop away in a playful manner, 'Mine! muahahaha', I plop back down and discover... Search for Files or Folders is open, with all the images I have on this thing displayed. (I have nothing noteworthy on this thing, FYI.. anything misconstruable is on my desktop which is currently mouldering away in agony in Germany)
Drama ensues as I start yelling about the discussion we'd had the previous night where I expounded on morals, ethics and how digging through peoples lives without permission is WRONG and that I have every right to be upset.
He doesn't think he did anything wrong because I handed him my laptop, thereby giving informal consent to paw through it at his leisure.
Pick a side, ladies & gents.