What I have been up to lately...
I am so lazy about updating, that I figured that since I was emailing a friend of mine that recently moved to Korea to teach English, that I might as well copy and paste.
Work-related....
Nolan -
It’s been a long while and I know that I promised to email sooner, but you know how bad I am at keeping in touch… one of my worst traits.
Well, as you can see, I did not stay with Sotheby’s. I felt bad about staying, as you might have heard from Diana. I felt like there was so much talk, but nothing to back it up or support it. In case, you didn’t hear the details, and WANT to hear it, I went in to talk to Roger and Diana the same day that Diana decided to go out on disability. They (Roger and Ernie, mostly Roger) didn’t want Diana in the room. I spoke with them expecting that they wouldn’t be able to give me the money that the new job was offering me. They were going to offer me $3,000 more (putting me at $33,000), thinking I would be happy, but I told them that I was offered this new job for 36K to start. So Roger basically said he had to go look at Mynelle’s file and make sure that he wasn’t stepping on any toes and to make everyone happy. He went to go look and said that he needed to raise Mynelle anyway, so he said that he would raise it to 36K if I stayed. I said I would and once I left the room he called in Mynelle. Mynelle came out with a $1,000 raise! How that made sense?!? I have no idea. This was all on a Monday, I decided to wait it out till the end of the week to make my decision. By Friday, I decided to turn in my resignation.
I gave it to Roger at the end of the day that Friday, and he asked if I was offered more money, (I lied), and said yes. He gave me the whole schpeel about how I would be so unhappy at the other company and bad mouthing them, just as I was expecting. He even started calling around, to try and get them to tell me about their experiences with the owner there. He finally asked me how much more they were giving me and I said, 2k more. He bad-mouthed some more and saying how if I was going to a good company, then he would hug me and say good luck to me, but that where I was going was a mistake. But at the end he said, that he would give me back my resignation letter and offer me the same amount (38K!!) and for me to think about it over the weekend and let him know.
I was wreck the entire weekend. I tried to talk about it to other ppl and see what their opinions were. In the end, I just had to write down all the pros and cons for each position and decide on my own. So, the end of the day, the following Monday, I left a resignation letter on Roger and Ernie’s desk. The next day, Ernie left me a really nice note and later came by and hugged me and said some really nice things, which almost made me cry. Roger called Mynelle and Elizabeth into his office and after that asked me to come in. He said that he was sorry to see that I decided to go and that “it would be a mistake, but I’ll let you make it.” Jerk! He said that he was glad that I was professional with the resignation letter, but that he would have to ask me to leave. For me to train/catch Elizabeth up on what I’ve been doing and that he would have my check by the end of the day. I prolonged my last day, and was about to leave at 4:30, but I had no check, so Roger said that I should have it by Wednesday. So basically, I just got my check on Friday. I was and still am pissed.
I tried to get paid for my 2 weeks, but found out that getting paid for the 2 weeks was optional since California is an “at-will employment”. But both Diana and Roxanne told me that I should get paid. Diana found out that getting paid for the 2 weeks is an optional thing and related to the owner’s own discretion. I didn’t get that money, and now I’m pissed at them. Pissed at how I was treated, how my work there went unappreciated…. Just upset at how things ended. Upset that the company is so inconsistent with their treatment of their employees… upset that they would do this to me. Upset that they hated that ppl wouldn’t give them a 2 weeks notice when they quit…. And when I did, they fucking terminate me! Pissed off that they would pay other terminated ppl their 2 weeks, and fucking give me the shaft when it came down to paying me. Pissed off that they would tell me that whole bullshit about paying Mynelle “fairly” but turn around and give her a 50 cent raise. Pissed that a company I really enjoyed to be at, a company that I was completely loyal to for over a year would fuck me over the way they did. Pissed that I gave everything to, late workdays, overtime, coming in on weekends that I didn’t have to…would just treat me and everyone there so immorally. Pissed that a company that I truly respected would completely DISrespect me. I’m having issues….as you can tell.
Now I am here, at my new job, that isn’t bad at all. I should be happy/content. But I’m in such a funk…. I’m so …. so….so… sad. I can’t word it any other way. And lately, I’ve felt so…. Alone. I hate that the way I feel makes it seem like I’m unhappy at this new place. I just can’t snap out of it. I know that I have Jordan to talk to, but I know that he won’t completely understand. I try and talk to Mynelle and Diana, but I also feel like I am bothering them. So right now, I just keep it all in. I need a night to where I can just cry. I feel betrayed. I tried doing it last night…. I left Jordan’s early to go home and cry. I talked to Diana on my way home, which made me feel better; I even let a little tears out. I was kinda hoping to let it out last night, but my parents were arguing all night. *sigh*
Anyway, I’m sorry that this email has been all about me here. I have been hearing bits and pieces of how you’re doing through Diana. I’m glad that Korea is treating you well. I heard that you’re going to Japan for a while…. I am so insanely jealous. I’ve always wanted to go there. Let me know how that goes.
By the way, I miss you.
I know that most of you don't know the ppl mentioned, but you get the jist(?) of it and what I am going through.
Work-related....
Nolan -
It’s been a long while and I know that I promised to email sooner, but you know how bad I am at keeping in touch… one of my worst traits.
Well, as you can see, I did not stay with Sotheby’s. I felt bad about staying, as you might have heard from Diana. I felt like there was so much talk, but nothing to back it up or support it. In case, you didn’t hear the details, and WANT to hear it, I went in to talk to Roger and Diana the same day that Diana decided to go out on disability. They (Roger and Ernie, mostly Roger) didn’t want Diana in the room. I spoke with them expecting that they wouldn’t be able to give me the money that the new job was offering me. They were going to offer me $3,000 more (putting me at $33,000), thinking I would be happy, but I told them that I was offered this new job for 36K to start. So Roger basically said he had to go look at Mynelle’s file and make sure that he wasn’t stepping on any toes and to make everyone happy. He went to go look and said that he needed to raise Mynelle anyway, so he said that he would raise it to 36K if I stayed. I said I would and once I left the room he called in Mynelle. Mynelle came out with a $1,000 raise! How that made sense?!? I have no idea. This was all on a Monday, I decided to wait it out till the end of the week to make my decision. By Friday, I decided to turn in my resignation.
I gave it to Roger at the end of the day that Friday, and he asked if I was offered more money, (I lied), and said yes. He gave me the whole schpeel about how I would be so unhappy at the other company and bad mouthing them, just as I was expecting. He even started calling around, to try and get them to tell me about their experiences with the owner there. He finally asked me how much more they were giving me and I said, 2k more. He bad-mouthed some more and saying how if I was going to a good company, then he would hug me and say good luck to me, but that where I was going was a mistake. But at the end he said, that he would give me back my resignation letter and offer me the same amount (38K!!) and for me to think about it over the weekend and let him know.
I was wreck the entire weekend. I tried to talk about it to other ppl and see what their opinions were. In the end, I just had to write down all the pros and cons for each position and decide on my own. So, the end of the day, the following Monday, I left a resignation letter on Roger and Ernie’s desk. The next day, Ernie left me a really nice note and later came by and hugged me and said some really nice things, which almost made me cry. Roger called Mynelle and Elizabeth into his office and after that asked me to come in. He said that he was sorry to see that I decided to go and that “it would be a mistake, but I’ll let you make it.” Jerk! He said that he was glad that I was professional with the resignation letter, but that he would have to ask me to leave. For me to train/catch Elizabeth up on what I’ve been doing and that he would have my check by the end of the day. I prolonged my last day, and was about to leave at 4:30, but I had no check, so Roger said that I should have it by Wednesday. So basically, I just got my check on Friday. I was and still am pissed.
I tried to get paid for my 2 weeks, but found out that getting paid for the 2 weeks was optional since California is an “at-will employment”. But both Diana and Roxanne told me that I should get paid. Diana found out that getting paid for the 2 weeks is an optional thing and related to the owner’s own discretion. I didn’t get that money, and now I’m pissed at them. Pissed at how I was treated, how my work there went unappreciated…. Just upset at how things ended. Upset that the company is so inconsistent with their treatment of their employees… upset that they would do this to me. Upset that they hated that ppl wouldn’t give them a 2 weeks notice when they quit…. And when I did, they fucking terminate me! Pissed off that they would pay other terminated ppl their 2 weeks, and fucking give me the shaft when it came down to paying me. Pissed off that they would tell me that whole bullshit about paying Mynelle “fairly” but turn around and give her a 50 cent raise. Pissed that a company I really enjoyed to be at, a company that I was completely loyal to for over a year would fuck me over the way they did. Pissed that I gave everything to, late workdays, overtime, coming in on weekends that I didn’t have to…would just treat me and everyone there so immorally. Pissed that a company that I truly respected would completely DISrespect me. I’m having issues….as you can tell.
Now I am here, at my new job, that isn’t bad at all. I should be happy/content. But I’m in such a funk…. I’m so …. so….so… sad. I can’t word it any other way. And lately, I’ve felt so…. Alone. I hate that the way I feel makes it seem like I’m unhappy at this new place. I just can’t snap out of it. I know that I have Jordan to talk to, but I know that he won’t completely understand. I try and talk to Mynelle and Diana, but I also feel like I am bothering them. So right now, I just keep it all in. I need a night to where I can just cry. I feel betrayed. I tried doing it last night…. I left Jordan’s early to go home and cry. I talked to Diana on my way home, which made me feel better; I even let a little tears out. I was kinda hoping to let it out last night, but my parents were arguing all night. *sigh*
Anyway, I’m sorry that this email has been all about me here. I have been hearing bits and pieces of how you’re doing through Diana. I’m glad that Korea is treating you well. I heard that you’re going to Japan for a while…. I am so insanely jealous. I’ve always wanted to go there. Let me know how that goes.
By the way, I miss you.
I know that most of you don't know the ppl mentioned, but you get the jist(?) of it and what I am going through.