Christian-no, I know it's not that simple and certainly relationships are built on many different factors. To your last point-my bf. We've been together for 16 years and we've never had that "chemical/animal" connection and to be honest we are quite opposite to each other. But we fit with each other like two pieces to a puzzle. It's odd. I can't imagine not being with him yet "on paper", we really shouldn't be together but yet we work together.
Bob and I are the same, almost 20 years together but even from day 1 we didn't have that animal connection that I have with some other guys. I think that's why we've lasted so long tho, we've done well as warm embers continuing to burn instead of a hot flame that fizzles quickly.
Do you ever "think" about this? I mean, I sometimes wish that we had that "burning desire" for each other (and I know Jim wishes we did) but ultimately, I know we don't but I don't feel like my relationship is lacking from it. Hell, it's been 16 f*cking years!
I don't think about it a whole lot myself, however it's recently become one of a handful of problems Bob and I have been dealing with as he's wishing there was more (any) sexual spark. It's kind of caught me off guard. Between this and some other things popping up it hasn't been the best month for us together :(
Yeah, I get that. Jim's been kinda douchey lately as well. And he's often asked why I want to have sex with others and not necessarily with him and, I dunno, strangers don't bug me about the laundry not being done, or leaving my clothes on the floor or they dont wake up in a bad mood and take it out on me for no reason....hmmm, I wonder.
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