Losing weight, gaining weight...
Since we started dating four months ago, my girlfriend and I have each put on about 10 pounds. She loves eating rich food and drinking good wine as much as I do, but has been unhappy in many ways about her weight gain. She actually had put on another 10 pounds before we started dating--about 20 pounds in the past year. She is still a jock, active--a great swimmer and fast on her road bike, but has (of course) slowed down considerably with 20 pounds on her. I have known her for three years now, and she has gone up and down in weight, as have I.
Anyway, we were just on the phone and she was complaining how she has outgrown a lot of her clothes, and really needs to lose weight and wants to help me lose weight too. I told her I'm not sure that I want to. I mean, all of my life I have struggled with weight. I am 34 now, but in my teens and for much of my twenties, I would gain weight and then lose it by practically starving myself. I never want to treat myself like that again, and I don't know how to lose weight any other way.
She knows that I have started to like being chubby, and I know she loves the way I look and feel. I wish both of us could embrace it wholeheartedly. Last weekend, we were fooling around a little bit and she told me that I really AM getting chubby these days, and started to kiss and squeeze my belly. It was such an incredible turn-on for us both, I could hardly believe it. Makes me realize how much something has been lacking for me in my past sexual relationships. She is the first woman I have been with who has even half-understood these desires; I just hope we can both find a way to accept them.
Anyway, we were just on the phone and she was complaining how she has outgrown a lot of her clothes, and really needs to lose weight and wants to help me lose weight too. I told her I'm not sure that I want to. I mean, all of my life I have struggled with weight. I am 34 now, but in my teens and for much of my twenties, I would gain weight and then lose it by practically starving myself. I never want to treat myself like that again, and I don't know how to lose weight any other way.
She knows that I have started to like being chubby, and I know she loves the way I look and feel. I wish both of us could embrace it wholeheartedly. Last weekend, we were fooling around a little bit and she told me that I really AM getting chubby these days, and started to kiss and squeeze my belly. It was such an incredible turn-on for us both, I could hardly believe it. Makes me realize how much something has been lacking for me in my past sexual relationships. She is the first woman I have been with who has even half-understood these desires; I just hope we can both find a way to accept them.