Continued
Hrm, in reply to comments to my previous post, let me clarify the situation:
-imagine you are in college and you have a professor in a class you need to get a good grade in or you are screwed, and the prof is a 26 year old hottie just out of grad school, barely older than you, and you spend as much time in class staring as working. Now does that mean you find some excuse to try to get into your professor's pants , risking some super awkward situation and screwing your grade by forcing a situation with a teacher who likes you but hasnt even shown at all that he/she is sexually attracted to you? Then if this prof sends you an email 6 months later saying he/she wants to jump your bones does that mean an opportunity was missed? Was there ever really an opportunity, at the time?
This is sort of the situation I was in at the DAs office, except rather than needing a grade, I needed a recommendation which means I have to be extra extra careful not to screw up personal relationships. So I'm not so much concerned with missed opportunities- as far as I knew at the time with the information I had, there was no opportunity. For all I know she was dating at the time and her breakup has her started to message me (its pretty typical rebound behavior, but I dont actually know what sparked it, if anything). Had there not been law school at stake... maybe I would have been more aggressive, but such a risk is not worth a reccommendation that can quite literally make or break me getting into a law school.
I guess I was more annoyed that the attention I get is so often in such unhelpful and inconsistent varieties. I dont think there was really an opportunity to miss... and if there is a way of effectively hitting on your boss/teacher/superior without screwing yourself in the process and putting yourself on a really dangerous limb, I'd love to hear it, cause I have no idea how that would even work.
And I guess we all know one way of doing it, but no, I dont plan on being a secretary wearing a revealing miniskirt and bending over a lot, so that path, while a well known method of boss-seduction, is not a path I plan on ever pursuing. And please disregard any facebook pictures that might provide evidence to the contrary.