I mean, come on! how many of these things match up close to home?
So in my boredom today sitting at home downloading music online and waiting for my wonderful lady to jet home to cuddle and see. I spent some time online browsing thru the information highway. I was kind of took by the neck when i ran into someones rant about relationships and what not. This is a good subject because alot of people have issues inside that need to be viewed and if any of these issues are not exactly right or healthy for us then we should try our hardest to help them. I found myself through a good portion of my life dealing with things good and bad. I am sure trillions of others have as well. But the main concern at hand is that of a relationship. I kind of read some of the relationship issues regarding being able to HOLD one, KNOW what to look for, how to KEEP the relationship real, and many more. I have had so many issues with relationships in my past. From just not being able to stand the person to being cheated on left and right. I would ask myself after finding these things out "What in hell did I do for her to do this to me.", or maybe it was more like "What DIDNT I do". So between my everyday life struggles I would kind of work on myself for future relationships. Pretty much I would take most of my relationships and analize what I didnt do that I should have. For instance; Communicate (be able to talk things out and learn each other), Commit (allow yourself to enjoy caring for ONE person for a long period of time), and more. But what puzzles me the most is that what if we already tried everything OUR minds think are right? Does this mean that just because things seem fine to you that they are complete and done with forever? Well sorry but NO! Most of what I seem to find out in myself are things that are more mental and more on the tip of being psychatric evaluated. Something(s) that have to be diagnosed by someone with a good degree in fucking mental health. So what I am trying to say is we can work on everything we seem to be doing wrong on the outside and function ok, but if we dont take care of the inside then we wont be fully cured.
I found some interesting things that could be a good portion to relationship falure or just not being able to function correctly in them. Not pin pointing, but just posted a few that took me by suprise.
A)borderline personality disorder
B)histrionic personality disorder
C)dependent personality disorder
A)borderline.- a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood... marked by these
characteristics (you must have five or more of the following:)
1)frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
2)pattern of unstable and intense relationships alternating between extremes of idialization and devaluation
3)identity disturbance:unstable self-image, or sense of self
4)implusive behavior in at least two areas of the following that are self-damaging ... spending money, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating
5)recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures or threats
6)affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood
7)chronic feelings of emptiness
8)inappropiate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger
9)transient, stress-related parnoia
B)histrionic personality disorder.- a pervasisve pattern of excessive emtionality and attention seeking, beginning at early adulthood. followed by these characteristics
1)is uncomfortable in situations where he or she is not the center of attention
2)interaction with others is often characterized by inappropiate sexually seductive or provacative behavior
3)displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
4)consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to oneself
5)has a style of speech that is excessiely impressionistic and lacking in detail
6)shows self-dramatazation, theatricality and exaggerated expression of emotion
7)is suggestible, easily influenced by others or circumstances
8)considers relationships to be more intimate then they actually are
C)dependent personality disorder.- a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to submissive and clinging behavior and fears of seperation, beginning at early adulthood and carries these characteristics
1)has difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amout of advice and reasusurance from others
2)needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life
3)has difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear or loss of support or approval
4)has difficulty initiating projects or doing things on his or her own because of lack of self confidence in judgement or abilities
5)goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant
6)feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for him or herself
7)urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends
8)is unrealisticlly preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of himself or herself
Fuck this shit hurts my head!!!
I found some interesting things that could be a good portion to relationship falure or just not being able to function correctly in them. Not pin pointing, but just posted a few that took me by suprise.
A)borderline personality disorder
B)histrionic personality disorder
C)dependent personality disorder
A)borderline.- a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood... marked by these
characteristics (you must have five or more of the following:)
1)frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
2)pattern of unstable and intense relationships alternating between extremes of idialization and devaluation
3)identity disturbance:unstable self-image, or sense of self
4)implusive behavior in at least two areas of the following that are self-damaging ... spending money, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating
5)recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures or threats
6)affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood
7)chronic feelings of emptiness
8)inappropiate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger
9)transient, stress-related parnoia
B)histrionic personality disorder.- a pervasisve pattern of excessive emtionality and attention seeking, beginning at early adulthood. followed by these characteristics
1)is uncomfortable in situations where he or she is not the center of attention
2)interaction with others is often characterized by inappropiate sexually seductive or provacative behavior
3)displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
4)consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to oneself
5)has a style of speech that is excessiely impressionistic and lacking in detail
6)shows self-dramatazation, theatricality and exaggerated expression of emotion
7)is suggestible, easily influenced by others or circumstances
8)considers relationships to be more intimate then they actually are
C)dependent personality disorder.- a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to submissive and clinging behavior and fears of seperation, beginning at early adulthood and carries these characteristics
1)has difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amout of advice and reasusurance from others
2)needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life
3)has difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear or loss of support or approval
4)has difficulty initiating projects or doing things on his or her own because of lack of self confidence in judgement or abilities
5)goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant
6)feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for him or herself
7)urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends
8)is unrealisticlly preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of himself or herself
Fuck this shit hurts my head!!!