if you don't have something nice to say.....
So I recently had a startling* realization - I don't have to say everything that pops into my head.
This is probably common sense for 98% of the world's population, but for me it's a huge breakthrough. It's not that I don't have a filter...... it's just that I've always thought that it's not necessary. But now I guess I've kind of figured out that it is.
This isn't a result of anything that happened. It's just me deciding to bite my tongue when what I'm about to say doesn't need to be said (usually because it's mean). Like, the other day when I was getting annoyed with someone, not because of something they did to me, but just because I'm ornery and judgmental* - instead of complaining about it to Mr. Husband Man like I normally would, I just kept my mouth shut. And somehow, I was eventually less and less annoyed (until I wasn't annoyed at all), probably more quickly than I would have been if I had vented. Crazy!
I wonder what other basic rules for living I've overlooked.....
*I think there's something wrong with my brain today, as I had to correct my spelling of both startling and judgmental. Since when do I misspell? Argh!
This is probably common sense for 98% of the world's population, but for me it's a huge breakthrough. It's not that I don't have a filter...... it's just that I've always thought that it's not necessary. But now I guess I've kind of figured out that it is.
This isn't a result of anything that happened. It's just me deciding to bite my tongue when what I'm about to say doesn't need to be said (usually because it's mean). Like, the other day when I was getting annoyed with someone, not because of something they did to me, but just because I'm ornery and judgmental* - instead of complaining about it to Mr. Husband Man like I normally would, I just kept my mouth shut. And somehow, I was eventually less and less annoyed (until I wasn't annoyed at all), probably more quickly than I would have been if I had vented. Crazy!
I wonder what other basic rules for living I've overlooked.....
*I think there's something wrong with my brain today, as I had to correct my spelling of both startling and judgmental. Since when do I misspell? Argh!