I IS BACK
Band trip was SO SO fun, full of asians, and face packs, and making friends and freedom and shopping and fangirling and just pure utter happiness. It was the best escape I've ever had, and I'm back in higher spirits, which is just what I needed XD It was the best thing that happened, best days of my life.
I suppose I'll just talk about major issues here. Okay, so one of my best friends and her boyfriend broke up, and I know he's feeling really crappy about it. I didn't really like him a lot before that, for many reasons, actually, but now, I don't know, I just feel sorry for him, so bad that his pain is almost mine. Well, I did want to you know, be nicer before he got dumped, but now, I don't know, I just find myself just being nicer without even thinking about it as much as before xD It's so complicated, I think only Ann could get it.
So, I wanted to tell him a lot, but had no guts to, but in the hotel room, I scrounged up the courage to find out his room number after calling like...2 other people, and basically just told him everything I wanted to. But you know, I still don't think he's okay now. Hmm.
Well, I saw his blog post and I just feel like responding to it now, quotes from him are bolded, responses italicized.
"Because of her parents she says, and the way she is...But I don't buy it."
Well, it's true actually. She's really conscious/respectful to what her parents think, because she has an old fashioned mentality, so what her parents think is very important to her, because she places lots of value in them and what they say and think.
"While I was on the band trip, every morning was another wake-up call, that she no longer cared about me."
Other people shouldn't validate your self worth. She isn't the only person who cares about you, you have you friends, family, etc. So many people have trouble with understanding this, but carrying yourself with charm, grace, swag, (whatever you want to call it) no matter what happens, is important, because first it'll feel fake, but it'll become natural later on. Allowing ourself to feel sad is in no way going to help us
"I didn't think my feelings would only get me 9 days, just to be cast away for another."
Strong feelings don't guarantee longer relationships, you're not paying for affection with your love.
"But the hardest part, is knowing you can never have them again, and seeing them with another. I never experienced this feeling before, and I guess this whole thing is just karma."
Don't want what you can't have anymore, if you can't have it, you were never meant to. God always makes the right decisions for you, you'll understand why this happened in time.
"At least I became better friends with someone. As I like to think, we both have a common goal."
Please don't tell me getting her back is your common goal.
"Although she says otherwise, I believe that it wouldn't have ended like this if she didn't go to China. Because, it's harder to lose feelings if those feelings are stronger."
It would make absolutely no difference. Absence doesn't necessarily make the heart grow fonder, no matter how strong your feelings are. Her parents still wouldn't approve regardless of whether or not she went on that trip. Her realizing that your personalities were incompatible wouldn't happen if she didn't go on that trip. These things are inevitable.
"Why don't her parents approve of me? Just because our families know each other?"
I can't really say why, not here, but they know who's right for their daughter and who isn't.
"I don't think I'm that bad of a guy (Although some people would have a different opinion). I mean, I'm not at the top, but I don't think that I'm at the bottom. But I guess I was wrong."
Please don't tell me you're implying what I think you're implying with the whole "some people would have a different opinion here) thing. Also, don't be weak and let others validate your self worth.
Okay, enough of this XD Taihyun wants to hang out Saturday at 4, SO many funny things have happened involving him, including the thing about double dates, cute girls, more confidence, wanting to know us better because we'll be "coming over next year", him commenting on my MANLY PURCHASES (suspenders, ties, dress shirts, etc)
To quote: "Your sister shops like a girl but buys stuff like a guy"
there's also:
"Did she spend her money on the SKIRTS, and the DRESSES?"
"No, she bought ties and suspenders"
"WHAT?"
There's also the comment about him being a pervert and him not being "that kind of person"
I'm also talking to him on chat
I made a new Korean friend! And a new white friend who's really cute and smiles really wide when I talk to him about his accent XD
I will post pictures of my kickass purchases later :P
I suppose I'll just talk about major issues here. Okay, so one of my best friends and her boyfriend broke up, and I know he's feeling really crappy about it. I didn't really like him a lot before that, for many reasons, actually, but now, I don't know, I just feel sorry for him, so bad that his pain is almost mine. Well, I did want to you know, be nicer before he got dumped, but now, I don't know, I just find myself just being nicer without even thinking about it as much as before xD It's so complicated, I think only Ann could get it.
So, I wanted to tell him a lot, but had no guts to, but in the hotel room, I scrounged up the courage to find out his room number after calling like...2 other people, and basically just told him everything I wanted to. But you know, I still don't think he's okay now. Hmm.
Well, I saw his blog post and I just feel like responding to it now, quotes from him are bolded, responses italicized.
"Because of her parents she says, and the way she is...But I don't buy it."
Well, it's true actually. She's really conscious/respectful to what her parents think, because she has an old fashioned mentality, so what her parents think is very important to her, because she places lots of value in them and what they say and think.
"While I was on the band trip, every morning was another wake-up call, that she no longer cared about me."
Other people shouldn't validate your self worth. She isn't the only person who cares about you, you have you friends, family, etc. So many people have trouble with understanding this, but carrying yourself with charm, grace, swag, (whatever you want to call it) no matter what happens, is important, because first it'll feel fake, but it'll become natural later on. Allowing ourself to feel sad is in no way going to help us
"I didn't think my feelings would only get me 9 days, just to be cast away for another."
Strong feelings don't guarantee longer relationships, you're not paying for affection with your love.
"But the hardest part, is knowing you can never have them again, and seeing them with another. I never experienced this feeling before, and I guess this whole thing is just karma."
Don't want what you can't have anymore, if you can't have it, you were never meant to. God always makes the right decisions for you, you'll understand why this happened in time.
"At least I became better friends with someone. As I like to think, we both have a common goal."
Please don't tell me getting her back is your common goal.
"Although she says otherwise, I believe that it wouldn't have ended like this if she didn't go to China. Because, it's harder to lose feelings if those feelings are stronger."
It would make absolutely no difference. Absence doesn't necessarily make the heart grow fonder, no matter how strong your feelings are. Her parents still wouldn't approve regardless of whether or not she went on that trip. Her realizing that your personalities were incompatible wouldn't happen if she didn't go on that trip. These things are inevitable.
"Why don't her parents approve of me? Just because our families know each other?"
I can't really say why, not here, but they know who's right for their daughter and who isn't.
"I don't think I'm that bad of a guy (Although some people would have a different opinion). I mean, I'm not at the top, but I don't think that I'm at the bottom. But I guess I was wrong."
Please don't tell me you're implying what I think you're implying with the whole "some people would have a different opinion here) thing. Also, don't be weak and let others validate your self worth.
Okay, enough of this XD Taihyun wants to hang out Saturday at 4, SO many funny things have happened involving him, including the thing about double dates, cute girls, more confidence, wanting to know us better because we'll be "coming over next year", him commenting on my MANLY PURCHASES (suspenders, ties, dress shirts, etc)
To quote: "Your sister shops like a girl but buys stuff like a guy"
there's also:
"Did she spend her money on the SKIRTS, and the DRESSES?"
"No, she bought ties and suspenders"
"WHAT?"
There's also the comment about him being a pervert and him not being "that kind of person"
I'm also talking to him on chat
I made a new Korean friend! And a new white friend who's really cute and smiles really wide when I talk to him about his accent XD
I will post pictures of my kickass purchases later :P