It nothing but a little bit of history repeating
I read this entry from sometime ago. Its hitting some things dead on.
So in response to my second to last entry I've done a lot of thinking. Since then, I gotten several extremely helpful answers from friends both online and in person. This past Friday I went to a "Black and White" themed birthday party and the answer finally came to me. (This may repeat some answers already given.)
At this party, i was my normal self, mixing and mingling getting to know some strangers while still sticking to my homebase of friends. While at this party, something very interesting hit me. There were people there who flirted and wanted to get to know me. This wasnt the interesting thing. the interesting thing was that i realized i was missing something earlier that I had then possessed. Confidence. I didnt care what my enviroment was, i just allowed myself to be just that, myself.
Still yet that isnt the answer to my original question. "How do you play the game of love?" The answer to that question lies in any and everyone of us. A wise person once told me that being single isnt a bad thing. It gives you time to better yourself. (Thanks dad.) Another wise person once told me that when its time for a relationship it will happen. (Thanks Katy) The connection between the two of these and the answer to the question, if you choose to believe it, is God. God knows that you're single and wanting to be in a relationship but he also knows what you're ready to and can handle. If you are not in a relationship than this is the chance for you to grow.
Next, it is common belief, and i belief that i share, that God's love is all the love you really need. God's love is abundant and forgiving. How many people, no matter how pretty, rich, funny, etc. can offer that type of love? None that i know of. I have come to the conclusion that anyone who is "playing the game" is playing a little too hard. Instead of using what you've got, you're out using the tricks of the trade to meet your next love interest. Is that really needed? Does life have to be so complicated that you have to learn the unwritten rules of, dare i say it...love? No, just sit your busy ass down and realize that instead the constant search and fail of love, you already have it.
The reason why i mentioned the party earlier was for this reason. i went to that party as myself. not looking, not hoping to be searched out. Something I've learned overtime is that you'll always find a missing sock when you're looking for a shoe. That night i realized that I finally didn't need that "relationship". And because I didnt need it, it presented itself.
I'm still not in a relationship, but i can live with that. :-)