Perception...
A lot of people tend to see me as male. Admittedly, I don't do a lot to dissuade this; I make no effort to present one way or the other.
Nobody gives me any issues, they just refer to me in the masculine without thinking about it.
I admit, I'm a little slow. I only just realized some of the implications of this a little bit ago:
People see me wearing a skirt, and consciously or unconsciously read me as male, and yet they don't give me any issues, even as I must be registering as a guy wearing a skirt to them.
I find this interesting. Depending on their point of view they could easily find a reason to hassle - no matter how they see me, I'm transgressing their expectations - but they don't. Not some don't, or most don't; nobody hassles me. I remember a time in the past when people did, many years ago.
Why?
I think a large part is that I am comfortable with myself for the most part, and so don't broadcast weak/prey. I didn't used to be.
Part of it may also be that I broadcast enough 'eccentric' to get myself a pass. Weird can be a magnet for trouble, but being weird and self-confident comes across as merely different. I generally own my weird, nowadays. ;-)
I'd like to think some of this is that people are more accepting than they used to be.
Nobody gives me any issues, they just refer to me in the masculine without thinking about it.
I admit, I'm a little slow. I only just realized some of the implications of this a little bit ago:
People see me wearing a skirt, and consciously or unconsciously read me as male, and yet they don't give me any issues, even as I must be registering as a guy wearing a skirt to them.
I find this interesting. Depending on their point of view they could easily find a reason to hassle - no matter how they see me, I'm transgressing their expectations - but they don't. Not some don't, or most don't; nobody hassles me. I remember a time in the past when people did, many years ago.
Why?
I think a large part is that I am comfortable with myself for the most part, and so don't broadcast weak/prey. I didn't used to be.
Part of it may also be that I broadcast enough 'eccentric' to get myself a pass. Weird can be a magnet for trouble, but being weird and self-confident comes across as merely different. I generally own my weird, nowadays. ;-)
I'd like to think some of this is that people are more accepting than they used to be.