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recently my dear friend has been bombarded with the attention of young men who wish to [at the least] get into her pants. she has told me of countless times where she has said, literally, "fuck off i'm not interested" and still had the same guy continue to hit on her. "since when does no mean yes!" she laments. i sympathize. but i also understand why guys are like that.
i read a cracked.com article recently that proposed that men have grown up watching movies where the hero always gets the girl in the end. "we're all the hero in our own stories so we think we deserve it". i completely agree. since i tend to be the more stereotypically "masculine" one in relationships, i find myself acting just as a hollywood protagonist would.
it plays out just like a movie. once rejected by a prospective love, i couldn't let it go. so i persisted. in hollywood romance, persistence is key. it worked for johnny cash in ring of fire. and persistence, ive found, will get you everywhere. just like peter parker held on to hope that he would get mary jane.
rest assured my intentions are honorable. i wouldn't put so much time and effort into chasing someone that i didn't think was a great person. but i realize that by being persistent, i'm managing to be a gigantic pain in the ass. we've learned that minimizing the distance between two people supposedly brings them closer. that's another thing that happens in the movies. you start out as the jerk, but little by little the more you bother her the more she starts to see little things about you - the good heart and humor that eventually charms her (because she already thinks you're good looking, but that's not enough) until you manage to do something to sweep her off her feet.
but in reality, you're just the annoying asshole who's wasting her time and irritating her and she probably has already given you all she's going to give. but the ego can't accept that. like the movie 500 days of summer.
so knowing this, what should i do? curb that behavior. there may possibly be a fine line between persistence and annoyance. i don't want to be the jerk. i want to be the good guy in this story. and that means being more patient and more considerate.
so on behalf of all stereotypically masculine people, i apologize to my friend and all stereotypically feminine people. because when you tell him he's an asshole and you're not interested, to him it's just the part of the movie where you meet and the girl(maybe guy) doesn't like you. but according to hollywood, she will eventually. and that's part of the reason we act the way we do.
sorry.
i read a cracked.com article recently that proposed that men have grown up watching movies where the hero always gets the girl in the end. "we're all the hero in our own stories so we think we deserve it". i completely agree. since i tend to be the more stereotypically "masculine" one in relationships, i find myself acting just as a hollywood protagonist would.
it plays out just like a movie. once rejected by a prospective love, i couldn't let it go. so i persisted. in hollywood romance, persistence is key. it worked for johnny cash in ring of fire. and persistence, ive found, will get you everywhere. just like peter parker held on to hope that he would get mary jane.
rest assured my intentions are honorable. i wouldn't put so much time and effort into chasing someone that i didn't think was a great person. but i realize that by being persistent, i'm managing to be a gigantic pain in the ass. we've learned that minimizing the distance between two people supposedly brings them closer. that's another thing that happens in the movies. you start out as the jerk, but little by little the more you bother her the more she starts to see little things about you - the good heart and humor that eventually charms her (because she already thinks you're good looking, but that's not enough) until you manage to do something to sweep her off her feet.
but in reality, you're just the annoying asshole who's wasting her time and irritating her and she probably has already given you all she's going to give. but the ego can't accept that. like the movie 500 days of summer.
so knowing this, what should i do? curb that behavior. there may possibly be a fine line between persistence and annoyance. i don't want to be the jerk. i want to be the good guy in this story. and that means being more patient and more considerate.
so on behalf of all stereotypically masculine people, i apologize to my friend and all stereotypically feminine people. because when you tell him he's an asshole and you're not interested, to him it's just the part of the movie where you meet and the girl(maybe guy) doesn't like you. but according to hollywood, she will eventually. and that's part of the reason we act the way we do.
sorry.