My Childfree Philosophy
Children are a blessing. Possibly the biggest blessing on earth - and in no way am I going to disagree with this common opinion. Moreover - I completely agree with it, which is exactly why I think my choice was so important.
My philosophy was a very difficult decision to make. It took a long analytical process and a lot thinking and calculation for me to be able to say that in my particular case it is the only right decision. And even years after the decision has been made I still catch myself thinking about it late at night explaining myself over and over again why it was the right thing to do.
Over the last two years I’ve discovered more like-minded people than I’ve ever thought there were. It really seems to me that many old dogmas are starting to disappear and that what comes instead brings out a completely new way of thinking, new values, new ideals, new dogmas - completely different to those we had before.
A Childfree by choice…
I have made this choice acknowledging the fact that one day it might bounce back in a form of a tremendous sorrow and I am prepared for it.
It started when I realised how many things are there to consider… Will I be able to give all that? Be all that? Afford all that…? Worry about it... make it my purpose...
Money
Values
Knowledge / Education
Manners
Self respect
Respect to others
Love to himself
Love to others
Sport and wellbeing
Healthy habits?
What if the kid was born unhealthy?
What if I have a postnatal depression?
Am I a good example?
Can I afford a child?
Can I provide a good upbringing and a base for my kid’s future in a developing world?
What do I need the children for?
Am I prepared to change my lifestyle?
Am I ready to work for my child for the next twenty years?
Am I ready for sleepless nights?
Am I ready to worry for
Can I give enough attention
Can I give enough support
Do I know how to listen?
Do I want children?
Being left alone with a child - Will I still want it? Will I be able to?
Am I ready to sacrifice my life and my spare timr his life all my life?
Am I ready to sacrifice my relationship and marriage?
Am I ready for the mess?
Am I healthy?
Can I deal with bullying at school?
How will my child remember me?
What role did I play in my kid’s life?
What do I know about children?
What if I going to make my parent’s mistakes?
When a child is unwanted - it follows him all his life.
My philosophy was a very difficult decision to make. It took a long analytical process and a lot thinking and calculation for me to be able to say that in my particular case it is the only right decision. And even years after the decision has been made I still catch myself thinking about it late at night explaining myself over and over again why it was the right thing to do.
Over the last two years I’ve discovered more like-minded people than I’ve ever thought there were. It really seems to me that many old dogmas are starting to disappear and that what comes instead brings out a completely new way of thinking, new values, new ideals, new dogmas - completely different to those we had before.
A Childfree by choice…
I have made this choice acknowledging the fact that one day it might bounce back in a form of a tremendous sorrow and I am prepared for it.
It started when I realised how many things are there to consider… Will I be able to give all that? Be all that? Afford all that…? Worry about it... make it my purpose...
Money
Values
Knowledge / Education
Manners
Self respect
Respect to others
Love to himself
Love to others
Sport and wellbeing
Healthy habits?
What if the kid was born unhealthy?
What if I have a postnatal depression?
Am I a good example?
Can I afford a child?
Can I provide a good upbringing and a base for my kid’s future in a developing world?
What do I need the children for?
Am I prepared to change my lifestyle?
Am I ready to work for my child for the next twenty years?
Am I ready for sleepless nights?
Am I ready to worry for
Can I give enough attention
Can I give enough support
Do I know how to listen?
Do I want children?
Being left alone with a child - Will I still want it? Will I be able to?
Am I ready to sacrifice my life and my spare timr his life all my life?
Am I ready to sacrifice my relationship and marriage?
Am I ready for the mess?
Am I healthy?
Can I deal with bullying at school?
How will my child remember me?
What role did I play in my kid’s life?
What do I know about children?
What if I going to make my parent’s mistakes?
When a child is unwanted - it follows him all his life.