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[creampuff090]

Hello everyone, so I have a thing to share. My sisters are always like "you give up too easily" or when we're fighting they'll be like "I hate that you give up." Usually what they mean by that is this: Just earlier, my sister wanted to play MarioKart and I didn't want to. Now they always complain, I will say no and give a definitive no, but do they

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[kakeochi_umai]

You should start reading r/childfree, there's a member on there who gives EXCELLENT advice about how to shut down people who won't listen to the word "no". They probably won't give advice about this topic because the argument with your sister wasn't related to children, but you can read the other threads and get some ideas.

In general:

1. You don't owe your sisters an explanation or justification for not wanting to do something.
2. Your sisters are deflecting blame onto you because they know they've just browbeaten you into doing something you told them you didn't want to do. If they can blame you for the problem, they don't have to feel guilty about their behaviour or do anything to change it.

So you could do something like this:

Sister: Hey, wanna play MarioKart?
You: No thanks.
Sister: Why not?
You: I don't want to right now.
Sister: But you have to!
You: No, I don't.
Sister: You're no fun!
You: The answer is still no.
Sister: You always do (blahblah complaint)
You: The answer is still no.

Basically, don't engage with their arguments or questions. You don't owe it to them to address any of it, so just keep bringing it back to "the answer is no". If they keep at it, you could also do this:

Sister: *more arguments*
You: Hey, you know how you said you want me to stop giving in to your arguments? Today's the day you will get your wish. My answer is, and will remain, no.

Good luck! I hope you're able to move out soon because they sound like a pain in the ass to live with.

[creampuff090]

Thank you very much for the advise! My sister is eleven so, that explains her brattiness ( probably should have mentioned that. ) I will be sure to try it next time!