My Thoughts...

[cissyann]

I really enjoy reading the posts in this community every morning. I have really learned alot about caring for chihuahuas, things to look for and I also love seeing the super cute pics. I have been a little disturbed by some of the bickering that seems to go on lately.
One of the reasons I have followed this site for so long is that there hasn't

Comments

[alisha_stiletto]

This is an interesting post.

Im of the belief that disagreement is okay. I think its unreasonable for people to think or want everyone to agree with what they have to say. With that, its okay for people to be able to speak their minds about things that are important to them, or effect them somehow. Like for myself, the topic of a long term illness of my pup or having to possibly put her down. Im passionate about animals, and so therefore have an interest in that topic.

There are some people that believe that my recent post discussing Nutella was done to start some kind of drama. It wasnt. Nutella is a Chi, and considering this is a Chi community I sincerely wanted to get a discussion going. And we did, and that was fine.

I think people should always try to be concious of how they word their posts and how they address people, sure - thats not always going to happen. Its human nature. Hell, we make mistakes - I make mistakes. Im human.

With that though, the focus has moved OFF of that topic and moved into personal drama. You're going to get that too. Why? People will not always like each other. End of story. Ive come to accept that people behave a certain way on the internet, and when I shut the computer off - they are gone.

I agree with the original poster in that it is kind of sad when you see people having a bit of a conflict. I dont believe that it takes away from the community any, we'll move on and things will be like they always will be.

I do think that what TAKES from the sentiment behind some other posts is when we point fingers and outright say that people have no "couth" or calling others children - or that kind of thing. But maybe my pointing *that* out will be labeled as the same kind of thing...

[midnight_d]

I pretty much agree with you on this.

I wonder if anyone else feels the way I do, in that when I'm a member of a community and it's all happy sappy lovey dovey and nobody ever has an ounce of conflict, it makes me want to slit my wrists.

[alisha_stiletto]

You crack me up girl.

I think people enjoy the more utopian community, where everyone agrees and everyone says things in the most gentlest of ways because we dont want to *hurt* anyone's feelings. And I think part of that is okay (The wanting to be thoughtful of people's feelings) - but I find with the rest, we end up getting caught in the overly pc, wishy washy stuff that is fake.

Life doesnt work like that. Its made up of peace and conflict and I think we perch on the balance in between the two and swing to each side from time to time.

I think for the most part we *are* a good community here. Things are going to happen...

[midnight_d]

Oh I freaking love this community! I love the fact that people say things in no uncertain terms. I love that people aren't affraid to give you "the hard truths". I love that we have conflict and discource. I've been a member of communities where if you say ANYTHING negative you're in trouble. Tell someone not to BYB? BANNED! Shit like that, and it's fucking stupid. I like to look at pictures of people's dogs and say how cute they are, but when it's just that, it makes me want to vom.

[wizba]

I agree that it doesn't really take away from the community...people do move on, and if they can't...well, then that is their problem and they are few and far between. I think it is posts like this that hurt the community more than anything.

[into_focus]

I forgot about our conversation this afternoon until I saw you and your boyfriend both complain about it. Move on already, it wasn't a big deal.