SHeesh!

[cherryblosomjen]

The sciffy boards can really be a breeding ground for anger sometimes.

I had commented that I didn't get the impression that Teyla was afraid in her scene with Sheppard -- flustered and confused but not afraid. I didn't feel the kiss was an act of violence so much as spontaneity. To which I received the response:

And when did you become a

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[koalathebear]

It bugs me in a way because the Internet was supposed to be a refuge for free speech and expression, but in its own way it's just as stifling as 'real society' with its unspoken rules on what is "right" and "wrong". I've seen Rules of Netiquette and the disdainful "this is how we do things around here" bastardisation of hapless newbies. Some Netizens are downright arrogant in their outlook on the world. I've come to the conclusion that I'm never going to 'persuade' someone to come around to my point of view on a topic on the Net and that many debates are merely just each side stating his/her view in a variety of different ways and not backing down.

You're more tolerant than I am in hanging out at boards like that. I love discussing things I like, having a lively debate/argument so long as it stays academic. The way I see it, all this is supposed to be fun and I've been involved in arguments on Usenet and discussion groups before that rankled and hurt far more than they should have - in the end it just wasn't worth it.

These days I just bunker down in the relative safety of my LJ where there are a small group of people I "know", and keep to smaller communities like HE which are friendly and welcoming. I can still do the whole debate/discussion thing, but there is less chance of people flying off the handle.

I realise that there are different degrees of obsession and I've discovered that with fandom you have to take the good with the bad. If you want to find a group of people who are willing to spend AGES going into detail and microanalysing every single tiny excruciatingly minute detail of your favourite show AND not laugh at you and call you a loser - then I realise that I have to accept that there is also a corresponding risk that things get taken personally - but I still think there should be a happy medium. I'm happy to follow the argument wherever it may lead, but people should try to maintain a sense of perspective. Sorry for blathering ;)